2001

Monday Night Solutions
Schedule 2001

JANUARY

January 8, 2001
One More Time! - Dr. Henry Cloud
The New Year is here and once again many of us we have made our resolutions. How many times have you vowed to change, give that up, or start doing something, only to be unsuccessful? Will this year be different? It's unlikely unless you use a different approach. Join us and discover an approach that really works once and for all! MNS-493

January 15, 2001
Give Till it Hurts? - Dr. John Townsend
We have all heard “it’s better to give than receive but some of us can’t even pull off receiving at all. Do you end up giving too much and not being able to ask for what you might need. Are you always putting others first at the expense of your own needs? Are you being selfish if you say "No"? You want to be a giving and loving person but still get what you need. Join us and discover a healthy balance and how you avoid feeling guilty? MNS-494

January 22, 2001
Just Get Over it! - Dr. Henry Cloud
People have hurt us and we have hurt others, we have been wronged against and done wrong. If only we could just forget about the hurts from the past and get over it! Since all this happened in the past shouldn't we "just get over it? It's not quite that simple, you can't just wish it away, pray it away or ignore it. You've got to deal with it but how? Join us and discover a better solution to “just get over it”! MNS-495

January 29, 2001
I Heard it Through the Grapevine- Dr. John Townsend
Have you been hurt by someone talking about you to others? Sadly, talking about others is something many of us do all too easily. Yet, we do need to discuss problems in relationships with helpful people. When does it cross the line from genuine concern to gossip? How do we avoid betraying a confidence? Why is talking about others so tempting? Join us and discover how to handle ourselves and those who enjoy talking about others? MNS-496

FEBRUARY

February 5, 2001
Light My Fire - Dr. Henry Cloud
Physical attraction often drives the male/female relationship. It’s exciting, exhilarating and sometimes can take us down the wrong path. How do we enjoy the benefits with out stumbling along the way. Join us for this fun and thought provoking evening! MNS-497

February 12, 2001
When a Man Loves a Woman - Dr. John Townsend
There is no doubt that men approach relationship very differently from women. Understanding those differences by both sexes can enhance both potential and existing relationships. You won’t want to miss this night ladies! MNS-498

February 19, 2001- President's Day
NO MONDAY NIGHT SOLUTIONS

February 26, 2001
Suspicious Minds - Dr. John Townsend
Relationships grow best in an environment of trust. Being mistrustful of a loved one may cause difficulty for you and spell trouble for the relationship. How do you tell if suspicion is due to an injury to your trust muscle or a healthy response to what’s happening? How can you help someone who doesn’t trust you become less suspicious? This evening will improve all of your relationships; please join us! MNS-499

MARCH

March 5, 2001
You Can’t Hurry Love - Dr. Henry Cloud
Once you find a relationship you think is worth pursuing you still need to keep the brakes on as you move through the phases of relationship. Join us and learn how to pace yourself as you move through the steps leading to commitment. Whether you are in a relationship or hoping to be this topic will prove helpful! MNS-500

March 12, 2001
Face Off - Dr. John Townsend
Just thinking of confrontation makes many people feel uncomfortable. We avoid it at all costs and then later feel regret, resentment or anger. Confrontation is important to all healthy relationships and an important ingredient to being true to you. It doesn’t have to be a negative experience but it does need to be done correctly. Join us and learn right & wrong ways of confronting. MNS-501

March 19, 2001
Opportunity Knocks - Dr. Henry Cloud
Do you feel like you have passed up some good opportunities in your life? What stopped you? Would you like to be more of a risk taker but fear keeps you from stepping out there. Stop letting life just happen to you and learn how to take the initiative? MNS-502

March 26, 2001
Forbidden Fruit- Dr. Henry Cloud
Why do we want what we can’t have? Temptation comes in many shapes and sizes. What is your special brand of temptation How do you deal with this weakness and is there any way to overcome it for good? Join us as we learn how to handle temptation! MNS-503

APRIL

"Secrets of Great Relationships" - Special 5 Part Series
Relationships are the Fuel of Life. Everyone would like their relationships to be “great” yet making them “great” is not as easy as it sounds. Learn how to make yours energizing and fulfilling rather than dull and draining? Join us and you will discover how a few simple secrets can not only transform your relationships but improve your emotional well-being in the process. This series will change your life!

April 2, 2001
Tender Mercies! - Dr. John Townsend
We all slip up and disappoint ourselves and others. What’s the most helpful way to handle those situations for everyone concerned? Discover why all truly great relationships thrive in an environment of acceptance. Your ability to understand this area could be the beginning of making of some great relationships! MNS-504

April 9, 2001
Tell Me No Lies! - Dr. Henry Cloud
Creating an environment of honesty is essential to all great relationships. You will discover how valuing honesty will improve even your most difficult relationships. This simple secret can help make all your relationships great. MNS-505

April 16, 2001
The Greatest of These… - Dr. John Townsend
Love is something we all long for and yet Love in it’s purest form seems to allude us. As we try to move closer to those we care for love sometimes seems harder to achieve. Discover a few simple truths to make love more meaningful in your relationships. MNS-506

April 23, 2001
Stand By Me - Dr. Henry Cloud
Knowing you can count on someone when things get tough is an important element of all great relationships. Join us and discover how to be the kind of person others can count on and what to do when others let you down. MNS-507

April 30, 2001
Piece of My Heart - Dr. John Townsend
Being vulnerable doesn’t always come easy yet the ability to be open with others is an important component of all great relationships. With a little practice you can add vulnerability to your relationship skills and in the process make a great relationship even better. MNS-508

MAY

May 7, 2001 Come early for Pizza, fun & fellowship 5$ - 6:00 p.m.
Whose Problem Is It Anyway? - Dr. Henry Cloud
Often we spend a great deal of energy blaming and pointing fingers which doesn’t help! Sometimes looking at what we could do differently might be the key to changing a relationship. This revelation may be better news than you had ever imagined. MNS-509

May 14, 2001
The Best Mistakes – Dr. John Townsend
It is important to learn how to treat mistakes like friends since we often learn the best “life” lessons through our mistakes. Give your self permission to do it wrong so you can get it right later on! MNS-510

May 21, 2001
Love me Now, Love Me Later- Dr. John Townsend
Many people claim that they have grown past their partner and wonder what to do now. Should they be patient with the other persons snail pace growth or replace the relationship? Discover the biblical position on this all too common dilemma as well as some new ways of handling this situation! MNS-511

May 28, 2001 Memorial Day Holiday - NO Monday Night Solutions

JUNE

June 4, 2001- Come early for a BBQ, fun & fellowship 5$ - 6:00 p.m.
Hope Doesn’t Always Float - Dr. Henry Cloud
The Bible says "Hope deferred Makes The Heart Grow Sick". Life without Hope is not worth living yet sometimes we hope for the impossible. When does hope slip into denial. How can we discern the difference and be in touch with reality? MNS-512

June 11, 2001
Safety Zone – Dr. John Townsend
Has your relationship finally arrived at a place of comfort and safety. Now may not be the time to relax. Don’t mistake comfort for complacency; there is a fine line between these two (comfort and indifference). Learning the difference can save your relationship. MNS-513

June 18, 2001
Silent Communication - Dr. Henry Cloud
There are few things more frustrating than being expected to read someone’s mind. Since improving your telepathic skills isn’t the most practical solution join us and learn some very effective communication techniques that are more fun than trying to be clairvoyant. MNS-514

June 25, 2001
True Reflection - Dr. John Townsend
Did you know your relationships depend on your ability to see clearly We often think we are better or worse than we are in real life. Seeing and Being the “real” you is a valuable skill! Join us and finally see your “true reflection”. MNS-515

JULY

July 2, 2001 - Come early for a BBQ, fun & fellowship 5$ - 6:00 p.m.
What Part of No Don’t You Understand? - Dr. John Townsend
Just say No sounds great but doesn’t always work in relationships. Determination only works for a short time and then feelings of guilt can derail us.. How do I insure that I can stick to my boundaries? There’s a formula that can help you change some of those troublesome relationships forever. MNS-516

Special 4 Week Series - LOVE LESSONS
Everyone of us could benefit from some continuing education in the area of Love. There are a number specific areas that many people struggle with over and over in all kinds of relationships. We have selected a few of those as our focus over the next 4 weeks. This 4 part series will help us take a closer look at specific topics essential to improving your love skills. Don’t miss any of the Love Lessons offered in July!

July 9, 2001
I Can’t Get No Satisfaction - Dr. John Townsend
Do you have trouble getting what you want or need? Have you felt as if your needs are not valid or important? What is God’s view of getting our “needs” met? We all have real needs but getting them met is sometimes difficult. Join us and finally get some satisfaction in this area of your life! MNS-517

July 16, 2001
Pick Your Battles - Dr. John Townsend
Everyone fights from time to time and good conflict can be a healthy sign. Learning how to do it right can save a relationship. People who use fear or intimidation; passive aggressive types or those who deflect the issues can be difficult and frustrating to deal with. Join us and discover your conflict style and learn healthy ways of resolving the discord in your relationships. MNS-518

July 23, 2001
This For That - Dr. Henry Cloud
Do you think playing fair will give you the kind of relationship you long for? Think again! This may not work the way you envision. Join us and we will show you how to avoid one of the most common pitfalls people slip into. MNS-519

July 30, 2001
Get More Love - Dr. Henry Cloud
Getting more love won’t just happen but there are things you can do to make it happen! If you want things to change it’s really up to you. Join us and learn a new skill and in the process discover how to get more love than you ever hoped out of your relationships. MNS-520

AUGUST

August 6, 2001
You’ve Really Got A Hold On Me - Dr. John Townsend
Why do we have a hard time letting go of people who are “bad” for us? Letting go emotionally is sometimes the smart thing to do. Find out why you continue to hang on and how to let go. If you have been stuck in this area this evening could very well help you make some positive changes. MNS-521

August 13, 2001 - Singles Night at Solutions
Come early for a BBQ, fun & fellowship 5$ - 6:00 p.m.
The Dating Game - Dr. Henry Cloud
Have you taken an active role in adding a little romance to your life? Are you unsure of how to improve your social life? Are you waiting for God to direct your love life? Join us as we discuss everything from “How to Get A Date to “How To Know if this is the Person for you” Even if your married bring a single friend for this fun and informative evening. MNS-522

August 20, 2001
All About Anxiety - Dr. John Townsend
Many people struggle with anxiety. It’s can an extremely uncomfortable feeling or even agonizing when your in the grips of it. If you have ever struggled with feelings of anxiety or know someone who has then join us and discover the underlying causes of anxiety and how to handle this when it surfaces. What you learn can will help set you free! MNS-523

August 27, 2001
Understanding The Male Mind - Dr. Henry Cloud
Different things make a man’s clock tick. If you ever wondered what makes your man tick this is the topic for you. Single or Married you will want to join us and make some new discoveries about yourself or the man in your life. Don’t miss it! MNS-524

SEPTEMBER

September 3, 2001 Labor Day Holiday
NO Monday Night Solutions

September 10, 2001
Don’t Worry, Be Happy - Dr. John Townsend
You’re happy, he’s not or she’s happy and your not! Staying happy when the other person is not, can be a real challenge! Are you out of touch or is the other person is just in a bad season? How can you ride out your partners unhappy times it out without ruining your peace of mind. Join us and get some great tips to help keep you in the right frame of mind. MNS-525

September 17, 2001
Emotional Loose Ends - Dr. Henry Cloud
Are there loose ends in your life that are affecting your relationships? Loose ends like: unexpressed resentments, unhealed hurts, ongoing conflicts, ignored requests? These can really cool off how you feel about someone. Sometimes we don’t even recognize when this is happening but we will notice we feel distant from our loved ones. Learn to recognize the signs so you can tighten up these areas of your relationships. MNS-526

September 24, 2001
Power People - Dr. Henry Cloud
People who need to have the upper hand can run over us. What’s behind their need to have all the power and what do we do with these people? How we deal with these kind of people is different depending on our relationship with them. Join us and get some tips on changing the balance of power in these relationships. MNS-527

OCTOBER/NOVEMBER

October 1, 2000
Running on Empty - Dr. John Townsend
Ignoring our real relational needs can be compared to running on empty. In order to arrive at your desired destination in life you’ve got to keep your tank filled; if you don’t, you are apt to find yourself someplace in life you would rather not be. What do you need in order to keep going and growing? Join us and learn how to keep your tank filled! MNS-528

October 8, 2001
Try A Little Tenderness! - Dr. John Townsend
When you need to be truthful with someone it can be difficult to be gentle. Learning to add a little tenderness can make a huge difference in all of our relationships. If you have not received much of this in your own life, it is hard to give it to others yet it is something we all respond to. It’s never too late to learn those skills. Both men and women can benefit from this topic and learn the value of tenderness. MNS-529

October 15, 2001
The Complete Woman - Dr. Henry Cloud
If you enjoyed “Understanding the Male Mind” you won’t want to miss this night on “The Complete Woman”! Find out what makes women tick. Learn the characteristics of a complete woman? Who is she and how do you become one? Men, what should you be looking for in a woman? Whether you are male or female, you will want to join us. Come and have some fun while you learn some things you may have never heard before. MNS-530

Special 4 Part Series
The Best Is Yet To Come
Each of us wants the best for ourselves and the people we care about. Even though we want it, this sometimes seems to elude us. Learning to be “our best” and to “give our best” may require some new skills. If good relational skills were not modeled for us it’s not too late to learn the skills necessary for more loving relationships. Join us for this 4 week series as we focus on four key areas that will help you discover the” best” for yourself and others.

October 22, 2001
Be the Best - Dr. Henry Cloud
We all desire to “be the best” person we can be! In order to “be the best” we need to be willing to look at “less than the best" about ourselves. So, how will accepting the yucky stuff about yourself improve your relationship? You’ll be surprised. Join us for the answer to this question and how this will improve your relationships? MNS-531

October 29, 2001
Believe the Best - Dr. John Townsend
People need to know that their feelings matter to others. Making someone feel that you are for them can go a long way toward building a better relationship and increasing intimacy. At first glance, this seems easy but it’s a lot more complicated that it seems. Join us and learn a few important techniques and avoid some relational common pitfalls! MNS-532

November 5, 2001
Expect the Best - Dr. Henry Cloud
When we care for someone we want them to be the best they can be. Unfortunately, this sometimes takes the form of nagging, control or anger, which won’t accomplish anything positive. We can play an important role in their growth process if we handle it right. Helping someone improve helps them and helps us at the same time. Join us and discover how “expecting the best ” can make all your relationships better. MNS-533

November 12, 2001
Give the Best - Dr. John Townsend
We all start out wanting to give our best to those we care about. We want to give from a “big heart” but don’t always succeed. What breaks down in the process? Don’t miss this night if you would like to learn how to give from a big heart and give your very best. You’ll discover that when you “give the best” you are likely to get the best in return! MNS-534

NOVEMBER/DECEMBER

November 19, 2001
Fire! Ready, Aim? - Dr. John Townsend
This seems to be a common problem for many people in relationships and in life in general. You answer before you even hear the question, you leaped before you looked or, you’re in too deep before you realize you don’t want to be there at all. If you suffer from the “ready, fire, aim, syndrome; join us and learn how to avoid overreacting. Instead, learn how to respond so that you won’t regret your actions in the future. MNS-535

Special 4-Part Series
Heaven on Earth
As our thoughts turn toward the approaching Holidays we often experience a mixture of feelings and emotions, some happy and some sad. These feelings are most often connected to our relationships, past and present. We know a good relationship may be the closest we get to Heaven on Earth and a bad one can be hell. We will look at a few areas that will help us reconcile with those people in our past and improve our relationships with the people in our present. This will also help you prepare for the people in your future

November 26, 2001
A Heart Betrayed - Dr. Henry Cloud
Hearts break for many different reasons, and often these reasons are because of circumstances beyond your control. The greatest wounds are those due to broken trust or a betrayal, and sadly many of us have experienced this more than once. Don’t miss this night and you will learn how to protect yourself in the future, without building walls. MNS-536

December 3, 2001
A Heart Renewed - Dr. John Townsend
Sadly, the broken hearted are the walking wounded, those left behind to figure out how to forgive and to go on with life. Forgiveness is often difficult when we have been so deeply wounded and are not ready to completely let go. In order to renew our heart and spirit, forgiveness is essential. Join us to learn how to begin to forgive and renew your heart. MNS-537

December 10, 2001
Search for Serenity - Dr. John Townsend
When you think of “serenity” what comes to mind ? Calmness, peacefulness and tranquility? Does this characterize the atmosphere of your relationships? We would all like to have more of this in our lives but most of us struggle to attain it, especially during the holidays. Join us and we will give you some effective ways to help you in your “search for serenity”! MNS-538

December 17, 2001
A Gift of Grace - Dr. Henry Cloud
With Christmas around the corner many of us are thinking about gift giving and receiving. What’s the best gift we could give to someone we love? You may answer that question based on what you would like to receive. Join us; the answer will be our gift to you that could change your holiday experience. MNS-539

December 24, 2001 - Christmas Holiday
NO Monday Night Solutions

December 31, 2001 - New Year's Holiday
NO Monday Night Solutions

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