2002
Monday Night Solutions
Schedule 2002
JANUARY
Special 4 Part Series - The Tough Side Of Love
There is nothing quite so wonderful as love when it’s going
smoothly. However, much like life, love has its ups and downs. Clearly,
there are some aspects of love that come easier than others. Handling
conflict, protecting what we love, saying no and standing firm on
important issues are all difficult at times. Join us for this 4
week series and discover how the tough side of love will actually
encourage closeness and help you eliminate struggles over reoccurring
issues. What you learn will enhance all of your relationships, whether
romantic, friendship or family.
January 7, 2002
You, Me & We, Dr. Henry Cloud
Becoming a couple is easy, becoming a healthy couple requires much
more work. Finding the balance between togetherness and separateness
can be the source of great joy or great difficulty. Both single
and married people struggle with this concept of becoming a “we’
while maintaining their individuality. Join us and together we will
explore this complex but very important aspect of relationships.
MNS-540
January 14, 2002
Loving Conflict - Dr. Henry Cloud
A relationship without some conflict may not be healthy, but constant
conflict isn’t healthy either. Friction and confrontation
can be a normal part of setting boundaries in your relationships.
Learning to handle this conflict in a positive, growth producing
way is vital to your peace of mind and the health of all your relationships.
Whether you are married or single, whether you have kids or not,
you will benefit from learning the art of loving conflict. MNS-541
January 21, 2002
Love Bandits - Dr. John Townsend
Protecting the love we value is something we all strive to do, yet
there are internal and external forces that will try to steal or
destroy the things we hold most dear if we are not vigilant. It
is vital to the health and happiness of our relationships to recognize
those “love bandits” before they are able to steal what
you value most. Join us and learn what and who they are and how
to safeguard your relationships. MNS-542
January 28, 2002
Special Night - Both Dr. Cloud & Dr. Townsend
The Value of Love
There are spoken and sometimes unspoken values that form the structure
of your relationships. Few things are more important than determining
what your values are because this will help define you to others.
Adhering to your values in the face of opposition may be difficult
but doing so will really determine what you get out of life and
your relationships. Join us for this very important topic and discover
that the love you value is the kind of love you will experience.
MNS-543
FEBRUARY
February 4, 2002 Dr. John Townsend
How People Grow - Based on the New Best-Selling Book
We have all been designed to grow spiritually and emotionally. Our
lives should reflect meaningful relationships with God and others,
satisfying work situations and the freedom to be who God intended
us to be. However, our lives and relationships often encounter difficulty
and pain rather than joy and peace. Join us and as Dr. Townsend
discusses the new book “How People Grow” and discover
the tools that will help you achieve the contentment and satisfaction
you long for. MNS-544
February 11, 2002 Valentine Special - Singles
Night
Love Connection - Dr. Henry Cloud
Let’s be perfectly honest; you are still hoping to meet that
“one special person” ! Okay, now that this is out in
the open, we would like to offer you some help making this hope
into a reality. Join us and learn that there are some definite steps
you can take to improve your chances of making a love connection.
If you are willing to try some things you’ve never done before,
you may get some surprising results. MNS-545
SPECIAL NOTE: MNS WILL BE OPEN President's Day. Come Join Us. February
18, 2002
When your Past becomes your Present - Dr. Henry Cloud
We sometimes find ourselves bringing unresolved relational issues
from our past into our present relationships. A past love that went
wrong can influence how we treat or react to those we currently
love. This can be so subtle we are not always aware of it happening
beyond the experience of feelings or reactions that seem out of
place. We can learn to deal with these old feelings so they don’t
sabotage our new relationships. Join us and begin to discover how
experiences from the past can ruin your present, if your not careful!
MNS-546
REVISED SCHEDULE For Feb. 25 thru Mar. 25
(Revised Feb. 11, 2002)
February 25, 2002
The Right Kind of Pain - Dr. John Townsend
Some pain is good for us and some pain isn’t; how do you know
which kind is the right kind? The pain associated with grief can
be the right kind if we are willing to let it work in our hearts.
The grief process is a necessary part of being a healthy well balanced
person. Many of us have spent a good portion of our lives avoiding
the pain linked with grief. Join us and we will take a close look
at the process and why it’s so important to work through all
those tough feeling and emotions. Learning to embrace the right
kind of pain will help you avoid the kind that isn’t right
for you! MNS-547
MARCH
March 4, 2002 - Special Guest Speaker - Steve
Arterburn
Come hear the co host of the New Life Live! radio program and author,
Steve Arterburn. MNS-548
REVISED SCHEDULE For Feb. 25 thru Mar. 25
(Revised Feb. 11, 2002)
March 11, 2002
Accepting Acceptance - Dr. John Townsend
One simple word “acceptance” holds so much power over
us! If you didn’t grow up with it you know what we mean all
too well. Acceptance affects how we feel about ourselves and our
imperfections and it affects every relationship we have. If we could
accept acceptance and let it work it’s power for good in our
lives, all of our relationships would thrive. Join us and learn
to accept acceptance and begin to enjoy all the benefits it will
bring into your life! MNS-549
March 18, 2002
Relationship Radar - Part I - Dr. John Townsend
If only we had radar that helped us detect & avoid unsafe people
that come into our lives. Sadly for most of us we don’t, however,
we can learn! Character discernment is one of the best relationship
skills you can develop. It will help you avoid unnecessary pain
and heartache and pick better people in the area of friendship and
romance. Join us for Part I of this 2 Part series; we will focus
on recognizing those unsafe people we all encounter as we travel
through life. Over the next two weeks you will get a crash course
that will greatly improve your life and relationships! MNS-550
March 25, 2002
Relationship Radar - Part II - Dr. Henry Cloud
Last week we identified those “unsafe people” in our
lives. Some of us were surprised at what we discovered. This week
we will look closely at the traits of people that are good for us
and improve the quality of our relationships. Join us as we again
focus on how to develop the skills needed to form healthy new relationship
or improve our existing ones. MNS-551
APRIL
April 1, 2002
Getting Love On The Inside - Dr. Henry Cloud
Our ability to receive love is often related to our early experiences
of love. Sometimes that process hasn’t worked well due to
things beyond our control. However, we are left trying to figure
out how to "get love on the inside" in a healthy way so
that we can get the full benefit of a loving relationship. Join
us and take a close look at the process of how our early love experiences
shape us and a different view of when it happens the way it was
meant to be. MNS-552
April 8, 2002
The Naked Heart - Dr. John Townsend
Our ability to reach out emotionally may have been damaged and we
may be hesitant to take risks again. It’s natural to react
in a way that will protect our heart from needless hurt but too
often we overreact. There are steps we can take to overcome this
fear and expose our heart in safer ways. Join us as we explore the
“naked heart” and what we can do to protect it while
still reaching out. MNS-553
Beginning April 15, there will be a special 11-part series
presenting Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend's latest book,
GOD WILL MAKE A WAY
April 15, 2002
The Role of Faith - Dr. Henry Cloud
We need many provisions for our journey through life and faith is
one vital provision we can’t afford to be without. It is more
than just how much we trust; faith is grounded in the character
of the One whom we trust. Join us and we will explore the very significant
and necessary role of faith in our life! MNS-554
April 22, 2002
Equip for Success - Dr. John Townsend
Success isn’t just for the lucky or persistent. It’s
for those willing to learn a new process that will equip them with
the discipline or ability needed to do something new or different
that can lead to success. Join us and discover how you can begin
to develop these disciplines and where to find a safe context to
explore relationship growth, weight loss, emotional struggles, or
whatever success means to you! MNS-555
April 29, 2002
Time and the Seasons of Life - Dr. John Townsend
The seasons of life are ever changing and they are accompanied by
new demands all along the way. Learning to take life as it comes,
adapting to demands and embracing the element of time will enhance
the journey in a way you never thought possible. MNS-556
MAY
GOD WILL MAKE A WAY,
(an 11-part series, from April 15, continues)
May 6, 2002
Begin Your Journey with God - Dr. Henry Cloud
It often seems that nothing happens when we try to make changes
in our life until we look to who designed and sustains the process.
Developing the ability to ask God for what we desire, need, want
solved, is a powerful key. Join us and learn how to either take
that first step or learn some new steps to begin your journey with
God. MNS-557
May 13, 2002
Embrace Problems as a Gift - Dr. John Townsend
Problems are difficult by definition. But instead of avoiding them
or simply trying to solve them, look beyond your problems to what
God is trying to teach you through them. You can begin to see problems
as a way for God to make your life, character and relationships
better. Join us and learn to see them as a “gift disguised
as a problem”. MNS-558
May 20, 2002
Place a High Value on Wisdom - Dr. Henry Cloud
Our life and relationships are dramatically affected by the amount
of wisdom we possess. Wisdom is needed in order to choose our steps
and find our way along the journey. Learn how to acquire and develop
wisdom, and understand the role others play in that process! MNS-559
JUNE
GOD WILL MAKE A WAY,
(an 11-part series, from April 15, continues)
June 3, 2002
Leave Your Baggage Behind - Dr. Henry Cloud
Leaving your baggage behind means more than simply forgetting about
it. We must first unpack our emotional bags which may include past
mistakes, fear of failure, guilt, forgiving others and letting go
of resentment, as well as dealing with fear. Discover with us how
to leave your baggage behind and move forward with a new sense of
freedom. MNS-560
June 10, 2002
Take Responsibility for Your Problems - Dr. John Townsend
It's true that when we avoid problems, we create other problems.
The sooner we learn to accept responsibility for the problems in
our life, the sooner we will be able to solve them. Discover how
to cure blame and unleash ownership to give you freedom and hope.
MNS-561
June 17, 2002
Integrate Heart, Mind Body and Soul - Dr. John Townsend
God wants to improve your life, but He will only do it when you
bring all of yourself to His growth process. Learn how to connect
all the parts of yourself such as your loves, values, passions,
and talents to God’s healing. If we hold back one or more
areas of our life, these areas will either hamper our way or bring
about self-sabotage. Discover how to bring your “heart, mind
and soul“ to God and find true fulfillment. MNS-562
June 24, 2002
Choose Travel Companions Wisely - Dr. Henry Cloud
Finding the right people to travel along with you on the path of
life can help you accomplish what is necessary. The best travel
companions will give you the encouragement and truth you need. Support
and community are essential in meeting your personal goals and solving
issues. Join us and discover if your companions are helping you
on your journey! MNS-563
JULY
GOD WILL MAKE A WAY,
(The final part of an 11-part series, from April 15)
July 1, 2002 Come early for a BBQ, fun &
fellowship 5$ - 6:00 p.m.
Find a Good Coach - Dr. Henry Cloud
The “self-made” person is an oxymoron. We all need the
feedback and mentoring of someone who is farther down the path than
we are in our particular area of interest. We all need to be taught,
mentored, and coached by someone who has more experience and maturity.
Have you found someone who is able to coach you and guide you? Join
us as we help you find your own personal coach! MNS-564
July 8, 2002
Damage Control - Dr. John Townsend
Dealing with trauma and hurt from the past is not pleasant but it
is a reality. Sometimes we try to ignore it, but that doesn’t
work. We can’t change what has happened but we can control
the effects of these wounds on our present life. Join us and learn
how to get past it and move on to health and happiness. MNS-565
July 15, 2002
The Up Side of Hate - Dr. Henry Cloud
Often we are uncomfortable with the idea of hate; just the word
can make us uneasy. Yet, hate does have an up side that can bring
you great benefit. Maybe the hate you feel is not a bad thing! Join
us and discover the “up side of hate;” you may discover
some surprising new and liberating ideas that improve your love
life. MNS-566
July 22, 2002 Ice Cream Social After Solutions - Celebrate 12 Years
of Monday Night Solutions
Truth or Consequences - Dr. John Townsend
Do you know that there is a direct correlation between honesty and
success in both love and work? The quality of your life and relationships
is greatly influenced by telling the truth! If you have ever been
in a relationship with someone who was not forthcoming with the
truth, you know how difficult this can be!. Join us and learn the
truth about truth and consequences! MNS-567
July 29, 2002
Don’t Look Back! - Dr. Henry Cloud
Why is it so hard to leave a dysfunctional relationship? It can
be very tempting to look back at the old life but sometimes dwelling
on it can be our undoing. How do we look back and learn from the
past without getting stuck there? Join us and discover the path
to moving forward that truly works! MNS-568
AUGUST
The Crazy Nature of Love
Special 8-tape series on Love, (based on 1 Cor. 13)
Love can make us feel crazy at times, but the right kind of love
can sure make life worth living. This is why we all long for sane
and satisfying relationships. In order to find the most rewarding
kind of love, we need a better understanding of the true “Nature
of Love”. 1Corinthians 13 gives us the best definition of
Love ever written. These verses should be the standard we hold up
for all of our relationships. This series will help you gauge where
you and your significant others are on the love continuum. Join
us and increase your knowledge of the “Nature of Love”
and take some of the “crazy making” out of your love
life.
August 5, 2002
Love’s Waiting Room -Dr. John Townsend
Sometimes we find ourselves in the position of having a relationship
in which we are the adult, and the other person isn’t ready
to grow up yet. We need to be patient as we wait for someone to
“get it or grow up”. It may not be easy, but if it’s
worth having it’s worth waiting for. If we realized just how
much our attitudes affected their progress we might learn to be
more patient. Join us to discover how we can “help them grow!
MNS-569
August 12, 2002 Come early for a BBQ, fun & fellowship 5$ -
6:00 p.m.
When Loves Longing Turns to Envy - Dr. Henry Cloud
There is nothing wrong with longing or desire, in fact God wants
to satisfy it in our life. When our desires are met and fulfilled,
we become more grateful and loving people. However, sometimes gratitude
becomes difficult to obtain and instead we find ourselves envying
those who have what we don’t. Learn how to transform envy
to gratitude by fulfilling your desires and creating more love in
your life. MNS-570
August 19, 2002
When Love Looks Out For # 1 - Dr. John Townsend
We have all heard the expression “looking out for # 1”
and we may have even ascribed to that philosophy at one time or
another. But when someone needs to be #1, the relationship is headed
for 2nd place. Have you been involved with someone who doesn’t
put you first and you find yourself jockeying for position? Join
us and learn the balance between taking care of yourself and taking
care of # 1. MNS-571
August 26, 2002
When Love Gets Angry - Dr. Henry Cloud
An easygoing temperament is a desirable quality that many of us
wish everyone possessed. The ability to let annoyances roll off
our back without getting upset is certainly better for our health.
What do you do if you find yourself involved with someone who is
easily frustrated and loses their temper a little too often? Join
us and discover the best way to handle anger? MNS-572
SEPTEMBER
Continuing our 8-part series on The Crazy Nature of Love
(See August for complete description)
September 2, 2002 - Labor Day
NO MONDAY NIGHT SOLUTIONS
September 9, 2002 Come early for a BBQ, fun & fellowship 5$
- 6:00 p.m.
Love is a Lousy Score Keeper - Dr. John Townsend
“Remember that time four years, three months or two days ago
when you did…..?” If you have ever been involved with
someone who seems to keep score for every offense or every favor,
you know how discouraging that can be. Creating a more accepting
environment is a better solution but how do we get that across to
the “score keeper “ in our life? Join us and learn some
helpful strategies to use with your “score keeper” and
then watch love begin to thrive! MNS-573
September 16, 2002
Love’s Triumph - Dr. Henry Cloud
True love is able to accept the good and the bad of the relationship
and the other person. This is not always easy since we may feel
pressured to compromise some important values to keep the peace.
A stand for truth is a stand again evil! Join us and learn how to
take the stand that brings you the best result even when the other
person resists. MNS-574
September 23, 2002
A Love You Can Depend On - Dr. John Townsend
Safety in a relationship is the gateway to the kind of constant
love we all want. Just knowing we can rely on someone else goes
a long way to promote trust. But what do we do if they aren’t
always reliable? Join us and learn how to give and receive protection
and build trust in your relationships especially when it’s
lacking! MNS-575
September 30, 2002
Love Lasts Through Thick and Thin - Dr. Henry Cloud
Everyone’s goal is a love that “lasts through thick
and thin”! What does it take for this kind of love? Certain
elements need to be present along with a measure of hope. But how
do you know if your hope is based in reality? Join us and you will
discover how to evaluate whether your hope is real or false? MNS-576
OCTOBER
October 7, 2002
Passion's Power! - Dr. Henry Cloud
Powerful feelings of passion when coupled with physical attraction
can be overwhelming. These feelings can leave us breathless and
sometimes senseless. Physical attraction is never a good barometer
of whether something is good for us or not. A powerful physical
attraction and unchecked passion can actually be a destructive force.
How do you know if this feeling is a healthy thing or a sign of
unresolved issues? Learn how to tell the difference and keep a lid
on this powder keg of emotion. MNS-577
October 14, 2002
Tempting Temptation - Dr. John Townsend
Some of our most important choices in life are made while caught
in the current of powerful temptation. The after-effects can be
devastating. Temptation comes in many shapes, sizes and disguises;
we need to recognize it quickly in order to get to safety. You may
be aware of your special brand of temptation but never quite succeed
in overcoming it. Join us and discover how to avoid giving in when
we are tempted by temptation. MNS-578
October 21, 2002
The Pleasure Principle - Dr. John Townsend
Think it’s simple to enjoy life? Well, think again. You may
find yourself at one extreme or the other, pleasure driven or pleasure
deprived. Finding a healthy balance between these two extremes can
make all the difference in how you experience happiness and pleasure.
We have one life to live, so learn to get the most out of it. Join
us and learn to enjoy the life you were designed to live, discovering
that true contentment and pleasure is within your reach. MNS-579
October 28, 2002
Left Behind - Dr. Henry Cloud
Many of us have been left behind by someone important. Sometimes
this can actually be a good thing, but often, being abandoned is
a very painful experience. Trying to forget about it or ignore it
is not an effective way to recover and move forward! If you would
like to understand the emotional ramifications of being “left
behind” or abandoned and gain some benefit from this experience,
then join us. This night could shed light on an otherwise dark experience
for you or someone you know who was “left behind”! MNS-580
NOVEMBER
November 4, 2002
Clear Signal - Dr. John Townsend
Can you hear me? Are you there? Does your communication with certain
people feel like you’ve got a bad connection or a weak signal?
No matter what you say, you feel like you are breaking up, or fading
in and out and you’re not even on a cell phone. Why is communication
so difficult with certain individuals but easier with others? Is
it about them or is it about you? Effective communication is a learned
skill and when done well, it can enhance all of your relationships.
Join us and learn how to insure you have a clear communication signal
every time! MNS-581
Maximum Success - Two Week Series
Success in your life and career has little to do with luck; it usually
takes work and determination. It can be defined as the accomplishment
of an aim or a goal. We all want to accomplish something of value
and nearly everyone has a treasured dream; one that hasn’t
turned into a reality! Sometimes we need a guide to help us start
the process, identify our goals and encourage us to make some important
changes to reach them. We also need to be prepared to face our fears
and push through to the other side. If you could use some help in
this area, join us and we will give you a plan for “Maximum
Success” that you can apply to your special area of interest
over the next two weeks.
November 11, 2002 Why Your Dream Isn’t Reality - Dr. John
Townsend MNS-582
November 18, 2002 Your Personal Plan for Success - Dr. Henry Cloud
MNS-583
Boundary Conversations – Four Week Series
"What To Say When You Don’t Know What To Say"
In any relationship there are times when we are faced with those
unavoidably tough conversations. When you care for someone saying
no or confronting a difficult problem is far from easy. Sometimes
it’s just hard to say the right thing in the right way. Are
you sometimes at a loss for the right thing to say during a difficult
conversation? Join us for this four week series and you will get
some invaluable help in “What To Say When You Don’t
Know What To Say!"
November 25, 2002
The Value of Confrontation - Dr. Henry Cloud
Many of us avoid confrontation either because we think it’s
a bad thing or we feel bad when we do it. We will look at what happens
when we confront and what happens when we don’t. This will
forever change how you view confrontation. MNS-584
DECEMBER
Boundary Conversations – Four Week Series
"What To Say When You Don’t Know What To Say"
(Continued from November)
December 2, 2002
Essential Elements of Healthy Confrontation - Dr. John Townsend
In order to confront properly, we need to understand the essential
elements to doing it the right way. Confronting improperly can actually
cause harm. Join us and learn the important elements of healthy
confrontation. MNS-585
December 9, 2002
Show and Tell - Dr. Henry Cloud
We will reinforce the value of confrontation along with the essential
elements we learned the previous week and demonstrate some common
types of confrontation. MNS-586
December 16, 2002
One Size Does Not Fit All - Dr. John Townsend
One type of confrontation is not suitable for all circumstances.
Learn how to confront in the special context of dating, friendship,
family, marriage, parenting and work. MNS-587
December 23, 2002 No Monday Night Solutions
- Christmas
December 30, 2002 No Monday Night Solutions - New Years
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