2003

Monday Night Solutions
Schedule 2003

JANUARY

Soul Mate Secrets Special 5-Part Series
The term “soul mate” means different things to different people, yet there are some qualities we could all agree: friend, playmate, companion, lover, partner or spouse. Have you ever wondered if the people who find that special person are just lucky or did they have a formula? You may be surprised to know that much of the selection process is hidden from you. Don’t be discouraged, simply understanding the process gives you an advantage. In this five week series we will talk about the qualities that make a soul mate and how to insure that the one you find is the one best suited for you. Whether married or single, join us for this fun and informative series to discover the secrets behind soul mates! Not only will it help you find one, it will help you become one!

January 6, 2003
Hey, Don’t I Know You? - Dr. Henry Cloud
Have you ever met someone and almost instantly felt like you found your “soul mate”? They seem familiar and you feel an instant connection. Whether you know it or not, you have stored in your brain a hidden image of the person you have been searching for. That person is often a composite of many significant people from your past and sometimes it can be a combination of those who have affected you the most in your life. Where does this come from and how can this knowledge help you with your current mate or your next significant relationship? MNS-588

January 13, 2003
You Want to do What? - Dr. John Townsend
Wouldn’t we all like to have a “soul mate” that not only appreciates our uniqueness and celebrates our differences? Are you able to do that? So many of us spend our energy trying to get those round pegs in our life to fit in those square holes instead of enjoying the differences and the mystery of the other person. As long as your values are similar, your differences should be celebrated and enjoyed. Join us and learn to accept and celebrate those differences that bring meaning and excitement to our closest relationships. MNS-589

January 20, 2003
Break On Through - Dr. Henry Cloud
Within many relationships there are issues that are sensitive or often considered taboo. Avoiding these topics can create barriers to both intimacy and growth. In order to go to the next level, we must be able to break through the barriers and be honest with the other person. Soul mates are willing to give and take feedback, but what if your mate isn’t quite so receptive? Discover some techniques that might make breaking through easier than you thought! MNS-590

January 27, 2003
Talk To Me! - Dr. John Townsend
Creating a safe environment for the free expression of feelings and needs is essential for your soul mate. Sound easy? Well, more people struggle with this than you might think. Just hearing someone else express their feelings can cause defenses to go up and listening to shut down. Join us and discover how to welcome the expression of feelings without necessarily feeling threatened or that you need to DO something. Learn how to let the soul mate in your life be free to tell you how they feel and what they need! MNS-591

FEBRUARY

February 3, 2003
It's Not My Fault! - Dr. John Townsend
A good relationship is one where both parties are willing to own their part in misunderstandings. This can be a significant factor in creating an environment of safety where the other person can admit their weakness and shortcomings without feeling guilty or blamed. This is not to say that a simple “I'm sorry” always gets you off the hook but it does allow room for your “soul mate” to be human, a work in progress. Join us as we learn to figure out whose stuff belongs to who and what to do about it! MNS-592

Winning at Love and Life Special 8-Part Series
Winning at love and life can be tough, especially if you don’t know where to focus or what steps to take. Many of us have tried to be more loving, more understanding, or more committed without any tangible lasting results. In this series we have some tried and true steps for you to follow. These steps can not only transform your life, they will transform all of your relationships and provide you a clear path for success and fulfillment in love and life. These are principals, when applied to a variety of real life situations, make life work and give you the winning edge. A series based on the Beatitudes

February 10, 2003
You Need It, You Got It - Dr. Henry Cloud
It seems we spend much of our lives hearing messages that make us think we should be a complete person; messages like “be the total woman” or “ be the self sufficient man”. The truth is that we really do need outside help to be complete and to bring order to the chaos of our lives and harmony to our relationships. Join us and learn how to get what you need personally to really win at love and life! MNS-593

February 17, 2003 President's Day NO MONDAY NIGHT SOLUTIONS

February 24, 2003
Holding Back the Tears - Dr. John Townsend
Did you know that people who can let themselves express sadness and shed tears when they are hurt are happier people overall. It may seem like a strange concept but it’s true. Sadly, many of us grew up hearing; “don’t be a baby” or “stop your crying”; so by the time we reach adulthood we are used to holding back the tears. Join and discover how letting those tears flow will make life work better. MNS-594

MARCH

Winning at Love and Life Continuing a special 8-Part Series

March 3, 2003
You’ve Got The Power - Dr. Henry Cloud
You have the power to create harmony and success in your life and with those you love. You also have the same ability to destroy that peace and harmony for yourself and others. Join us and learn how to direct your power so that you are more likely to win where it counts; in life and love! MNS-595

March 10, 2003
The Right Stuff - Dr. John Townsend
Desiring the good stuff in life may not be the same thing as desiring the right stuff! We need to know the difference because when life works well for us we feel good and happy. When life doesn’t work well, we feel frustrated and unhappy. Join us and compare your list to ours so to insure you have the right stuff to win at life! MNS-596

March 17, 2003
Mercy, Mercy Me - Dr. John Townsend
Have you heard the expression “Grace is getting something you don’t deserve and Mercy is not getting something you do deserve”? When someone lets us off the hook unexpectedly, we breathe a deep sigh of relief. So why don’t we resist the impulse to retaliate or extract justice when we know how it feels to be let off the hook. Join us and learn how you can improve your odds of winning in life and relationships if you give mercy a little more often to those who don’t deserve it! MNS-597

March 24, 2003
Best of Intentions - Dr. Henry Cloud
In all of life, in whatever we are doing, our lives manifest the fruit of our actions. We may think we have the best of intentions but we generally have an agenda or have expectations for something in return. Learning to get to the place where our motives are pure with no expectations can bring us some unexpected fruit in our relationships as well as other important areas of life. Join us and learn how to give every area of your life the best we have and see how well life can work when we do. MNS-598

March 31, 2003
Make Love Not War - Dr. Henry Cloud
Are you more of a lover or more of a fighter? We do seem to naturally lean more to one side or the other but in reality sometimes both are wrong. Neither provocation nor placation leads to peaceful fulfilling relationships, but the art of peacemaking does. Join us and discover how to have relationships that transcend conflict and find lasting resolution and intimacy. MNS-599

APRIL

Winning at Love and Life Final night of a special 8-Part Series

April 7, 2003
Take A Stand - Dr. John Townsend
We are all at different places in our journey, and sometimes this puts us at odds with those around us. Sometimes our journey necessitates that we take a stand on issues that are uncomfortable for us. We may find we want to back down for fear of offending or alienating someone close to us. In this series you will discover that some resistance is normal and even to be expected. Join us and learn how to handle this struggle that is likely to come your way. MNS-600

April 14, 2003
Breaking Up is Hard to Do - Dr. Henry Cloud
Breaking up is never easy, but sometimes, when all other attempts to repair the relationship have failed, it is inevitable. If you have tried everything to no avail, then it is best to prepare yourself for the breakup. Whether in romance or friendship, we have all experienced the pain of a breakup, but there are things you can do that will help you get through it. Join us and learn how to minimize the pain. MNS-601

April 21, 2003
Trust Busters - Dr. John Townsend
Many of us have learned the hard way that when we trust the wrong people, we risk getting hurt. If we are going to have solid relationships, we need to learn how to create an atmosphere of trust and how to spot those “ trust busters” early in our relationships. Whether your are single or married, this evening will help you improve your relationships and teach you whom to trust and how to trust again. MNS-602

April 28, 2003
Back to the Future- Dr. Henry Cloud
The key to happiness in your current and future relationships may very well lie in your past. Being able to step back and look at the past may help you uncover recurring patterns that have affected the outcome of previous relationships. The ability to do this may insure a better and more prosperous relationship future. Join us and find out if you really have to deal with your past to have a better relationship now. MNS-603

MAY

This Heart of Mine Special 9-Part Series (based on Gal. 5:22)
The condition of our hearts influences every area of our lives. A heart in poor condition will keep us from fully participating in all that life has to offer. Since our hearts are the center of our emotions, what is hidden deep inside them may well be the very thing keeping us from getting many of the good things we desire: love, joy, peace, goodness and more fulfilling relationships, to name just a few. If you are willing to look within, you may find some of those good things you have been missing. In this series you'll discover how “this heart of mine” holds the key to those fulfilling relationships we all long for.

May 5, 2003
All You Need Is Love? - Dr. John Townsend changed: Dr. Henry Cloud
Were the Beatles right? Is love all we need? There is no doubt that love is what we all want, and we all know that love is the highest calling; but is it enough? Love means different things to different people, its definitions are countless. This will be a fun and informative night as we explore the answer to this question and many others. Understanding love could be the key to actually finding it. Discover how getting the love you need will make life work better in all the areas that matter! MNS-604

May 12, 2003
Cloud Nine - Dr. Henry Cloud changed: Dr. John Townsend
How would you describe being on “cloud nine”? It could be a feeling of elation or joy that often comes from being with a special person or from special events in life. While it doesn’t happen that often, it needn't be a rare experience, either. So how do we experience more joy? Join us and find out how to avoid those joy-killers that keep us from our “cloud nine” experiences. MNS-605

May 19, 2003
Take it Easy - Dr. John Townsend
Remember those great Eagles' songs, “Take It Easy” and “Peaceful, Easy Feeling"? When was the last time you felt like that especially during these unsettled times? Are such feelings the result of a frame of mind or purely due to circumstances? It seems when we are stressed and out of sync, our relationships suffer too. Come and learn how to take life easy and get that peaceful, easy feeling. MNS-606

May 26, 2003 Memorial Day Holiday - NO MONDAY NIGHT SOLUTIONS

JUNE

Continuing - This Heart of Mine Special 9-Part Series (based on Gal. 5:22)

June 2, 2003
Good Things Come to Those Who Wait - Dr. Henry Cloud
Hurry up! I want it NOW! Being on the receiving end of an impatient person is no fun at all. It seems that everyone either needs something this minute or is in a perpetual rush. A lack of patience affects our relationships and our lives in dozens of ways. Only by having patience are we able to wait for the good things life has to offer. There is only one problem; patience goes against human nature! This session, we will explore the benefits of patience and show you how to make this attribute part of your life. MNS-607

June 9, 2003
Don’t Be Cruel - Dr. John Townsend
Cruel and nasty people are a real downer, but we have all experienced them at one time or another. We may not want to admit it but we may even occasionally have been one of them! If when you hear the expression “kill them with kindness”, you find yourself relating to the “kill them” part but not to the “with kindness" part, take heart, you can turn that mean or cruel streak or cruel nature into a kind one! Come and find out how. MNS-608

June 16, 2003
I’ll Be Good to You - Dr. John Townsend
We all want someone who will be good to us. Someone who is good to us brings us comfort and security. We often adopt the philosophy that we’ll be good to others if they'll be good to us. Sounds good, right? Perhaps there is another approach, an even better one. Join us for what may be a surprising twist on this idea of “I’ll be good to you if you’ll be good to me!” MNS-609

CORRECTION: June 23, 2003 - No Monday Night Solutions

June 30, 2003
True Blue - Dr. John Townsend
What do you think of when you hear the term “true blue”? Faithfulness comes to mind; perhaps you think of someone who is loyal and constant in the worst of times, a person that will stand by you and can’t be bought no matter the price. People like that are priceless! Isn’t this what we wish for in all our relationships? Is there a way to know if someone is “true blue” or will only the test of time tell reveal the answer? This session we will explore the making of a “true blue” person. MNS-610

JULY

Final part - This Heart of Mine, Special 9-Part Series (based on Gal. 5:22)

July 7, 2003
Love Me Tender - Dr. Henry Cloud
Tenderness makes us feel loved and cared for. Showing tenderness is one sure way for both men and women to improve their relationship, and yet it doesn’t always come naturally to us. We may not possess tenderness; in fact and we may have actually resisted it for a variety of reasons. Take heart, there is hope for those of us who struggle in this area. Learn the art of tender loving care with us! MNS-611

July 14, 2003
How Do I Control Thee? Let Me Count the Ways! - Dr. Henry Cloud
There are few things that make us feel more powerful than being in control. But do you ever feel like your life is out of control? Too many demands, too much going on, and not getting what we want from others can lead us to try to control people and situations. Our attempts to control give us a false sense of security; self-control, on the other hand, can actually prepare us to receive the love we may be trying so hard to get. So how does one find that healthy balance of control? In this session we will help you gain the type of control you were meant to have. Learn to let go of what you can’t control anyway and get what you really want - a better relationship! MNS-612

New 8-part Series begins! Extraordinary Relationships
Our love relationships may provide us with a lot of good things, such as comfort, security, protection, love, tenderness, intimacy, companionship, help, and more… If we are honest, we may admit that we want all this and more--we want an extraordinary relationship. With that in mind, we will explore everything that it takes to elevate our relationships from ordinary to extraordinary, including, finding the “right” person examining past mistakes, and learning how to truly love someone. Whether you are married or single, in a good relationship or one that is struggling, this eight-part series is for you. Join us; what you learn could very well change the course of your relationship future.

July 21, 2003 ***Special Singles / BBQ Tonight - 6:00pm - $5.00***
Looking for Mr. or Miss Wonderful? - Dr. John Townsend
Okay, you think you are wonderful, your friends think you are wonderful…so why are you still single? You long to find that wonderful, fulfilling love that makes people grow together and build a deep, lasting connection, but it doesn’t seem like that is happening. You either aren’t meeting enough people or you aren’t meeting the right people. Could you do more to make this happen? Tonight we will look at some of the ways you can take charge and change your love life future. MNS-613

July 28, 2003 ***Special Guest Speaker - Steve Arterburn***
Avoiding Mr. Wrong.
Ladies, do you find yourself attracted to a certain type of man—over and over? Men, does it seem that you are unable to have a healthy relationship? Join us as our guest speaker, best-selling author Steve Arterburn, gives us the facts about “Avoiding Mr. Wrong.” If you are involved with Mr. Wrong, you will find out why. If you are Mr. Wrong, you can learn how to become Mr. Right and change the outcome of your next relationship. MNS-614

AUGUST

New 8-part Series continues!
Extraordinary Relationships

August 4, 2003
STOP...in the Name of Love! - Dr. John Townsend
Most of us have had at least one relationship that didn’t turn out the way we had hoped--or perhaps it was a downright disaster! Chances are good that there may be a pattern at the root of your problem. By all means STOP what you are doing--it isn’t working! In order to give Love the best chance at success, you will need to make sure you avoid your earlier mistakes. Valuable information is waiting to be uncovered from your past relationships. So join us and learn how to STOP repeating the same mistakes. It’s never too late--you can improve your relationship future. MNS-615

August 11, 2003
Sweet Surrender - Dr. John Townsend
An attitude of surrender is a part of all extraordinary relationships. It is not something that comes naturally to us. However, learning the art of surrender is an important step toward creating that “extraordinary relationship” we all long for. Besides learning to surrender, we must also make sure we are surrendering under the right circumstances and for the right reasons. You will find that you may give up something, only to get something far better and more lasting. Join us—you’ll learn that surrendering can not only be sweet, it can be the best thing to do! MNS-616

August 18, 2003
Loving You and Loving Me - Dr. John Townsend
So you want to go to the next level in love? Learning how to really love is not as simple as it seems at first glance. If all you ever think about is yourself, you will never get what you really want. On the other hand, if all you do is focus on the other person in a co-dependent way, you’ll be worn out and unfulfilled. Come to Solutions—you’ll find out that “loving you and loving me” is an idea worth embracing. It is one of the ways to take a relationship from good to extraordinary. MNS-617

August 25, 2003
What’s Mine is Mine! - Dr. Henry Cloud
What’s mine is mine and what’s yours is yours? This certainly sounds selfish, doesn’t it? Well, it really depends on the circumstances. Understanding just how important it is to own your own stuff is critical if you want to create the right environment for your “extraordinary” relationships to thrive. Join us and discover when you should say, “This is mine, and that is yours”! Learning how to do this will absolutely take a good relationship to the next level. MNS-618

SEPTEMBER

New 8-part Series continues!
Extraordinary Relationships

September 26, 2003 Labor Day Holiday - NO MONDAY NIGHT SOLUTIONS

September 8, 2003
Sincerely Yours - Dr. John Townsend
In order to have a truly intimate relationship, you must have two people who are completely honest with one another. Sound easy? Sadly, it doesn’t happen as often as it should. There are many reasons for a reluctance to be open and honest, and not all of these reasons are due to poor character—it is important to know the difference. If you “sincerely” want to take your relationship to the next level, “Sincerely Yours” will help you see why honesty is one of the most important elements of an extraordinary relationship. MNS-619

Final night of our 8-part Series Extraordinary Relationships

September 15, 2003
Through My Eyes - Dr. Henry Cloud
We all want someone who knows what we’ve gone through and understands how we feel. Isn’t it a gift to us when someone really makes an effort to understand our experience as if looking through our eyes? It makes us feel heard and understood, and it is a very positive experience. But it should work both ways; are we willing to try to see the other person’s experience through their eyes? Let’s learn how to see life through each other’s eyes without losing our self. Learning how to do this will do wonders for your relationships! This session concludes our series on Extraordinary Relationships. MNS-620

September 22, 2003
What About Dad? - Dr. Henry Cloud **Special Singles / BBQ Tonight - 6:00pm - $5.00**
What does Dad have to do with our relationships? Quite a lot! If you had a dad who was present in your life, you can be sure he had a profound effect on you. If your dad was absent, either physically or emotionally, his absence has likewise been a powerful force. A father who does his job well will impart some invaluable truths and skills to his children. For good or for bad, Dad’s influence follows us into all our significant relationships. Join us and find out what to do about Dad—the dad you had or the dad you didn’t have! Understanding Dad’s influence can change the course of your relationships. MNS-621

September 29, 2003
Mommy Dearest - Dr. John Townsend
Mom’s influence has had a profound effect on all our adult relationships, including our romantic ones. Everyone would agree that mothering is one of the most difficult jobs on earth and that babies don’t come with instructions. Mom must teach us how to love, trust and bond, along with many other important life skills. Our mothers are affecting us even today! This evening, we’ll take a look at Mom’s influence and its effect on all our adult relationships and provide you with tips on what to do from here on out. What you learn could improve your relationship future. MNS-622

OCTOBER

October 6, 2003
Boundaries Face to Face - Dr. John Townsend
Here’s how to have the conversation you’ve been avoiding!
People who succeed at life are not afraid to confront others when necessary. For the majority of us, however, the thought of having that dreaded conversation can make us nervous, even downright anxious! Let Dr. John Townsend take some of the anxiety out of confrontation for you. Come and hear him discuss for the first time (this will be a special evening!) the newest book he and Dr. Cloud have written. MNS-623

October 13, 2003
Show Me the Money! - Dr. John Townsend
Money—we all need it in order to pay for necessities, and we all want it so that we can have the luxuries we desire. Attitudes about money affect our spending patterns and our relationship with material things. But more than that, these attitudes permeate our relationships with people, and disagreements over money can be a major cause of relationship breakdown. Join us as we examine money and the many ways in which it affects key areas of our lives. MNS-624

October 20, 2003
Four Corners of the Heart - Dr. Henry Cloud
We’re all on a quest for meaningful relationships, hoping to find satisfaction and fulfillment in life. Let’s be honest—we all want to feel good! We are constantly searching, making choices, changing courses, hoping we are on the right path or in the right place. In fact, there are only four possible “places” to live emotionally, and they each have their appeal. Most of us camp out in one or the other of these four places, and each place has its own unique effect on how we feel and how we relate to others. This evening’s session will help you recognize which place your heart has settled in and learn what it takes to feel good about your relationships and your life. MNS-625

October 27, 2003
SEX in the City, and Everywhere Else! - Dr. Henry Cloud
Sex is powerful. It is used with great effect to promote movies; to sell magazines, beauty products and health club memberships; and to influence the choices we make, from the kind of car we drive to the brand of toothpaste we use! Often the desire for sex is what drives us into relationships and then continues to be a significant trouble spot. Sex is supposed to be something sacred between man and woman, yet Hollywood has made it as casual as shaking hands… Whether single or married, you’ll want to join us and rediscover the real angle on sex. MNS-626

NOVEMBER

November 3, 2003
Prisoner of Love - Dr. John Townsend
We long for love, but how much are we willing to give up to get it? Some things are worth giving up for love; other things one should never give up. If you are not clear on what is negotiable and what isn’t, you could find yourself a prisoner of love. Come and find out whether you’ve been taken captive unawares, and learn how to set yourself free. MNS-627

November 10, 2003 (topic and speaker changed 10/31)
Rescue Me! - Dr. John Townsend
Have you ever fantasized about being rescued from life’s difficulties? If so, you’re not alone; many of us have a secret wish to be sheltered from difficult problems, situations, and even people. While you may not have verbalized it, this desire to be saved from ____________ (you fill in the blank) could be preventing you from living life to the fullest. Are you putting a part of your life on hold in the hope of being rescued? Come and find out!- MNS-628

November 17, 2003
As Good as It Gets - Dr. John Townsend
Most of us have at least one relationship that needs some extra help. Perhaps you’ve resigned yourself to the idea that this is “as good as it gets.” You feel you’ve tried everything, and it seems the other person is resisting your attempts to change or improve things between you. He or she may not even acknowledge that a problem exists. It is very common to feel confused about what the real problem is and how to handle it. Here’s your chance to gain some insight into four of your toughest relational problems, and to find out what to do to make things better! MNS-629

November 24, 2003
What Women Want - Dr. Henry Cloud
Men claim that women are a mystery to them! Women, on the other hand, don’t think the female gender is all that hard to understand. What is the truth? Are women complicated and impossible to fathom? Join us and we will remove some of the feminine mystique that drives men crazy. Bring a friend, male or female, and come listen, laugh, and learn about what makes women tick. You never know, this could just be the key to understanding what women want! MNS-630

DECEMBER

December 1, 2003
What Men Want - Dr. John Townsend
Ladies, in order to be successful in your relationships with men, it is important to know what men really want. You may think you know—but why, then, when it comes to the man in your life, do you feel like you’re operating in the dark? Join Dr. Cloud as he sheds some light on how men think about life and the opposite sex. This will be a fun and informative evening for men and women alike, so bring a friend—you won’t want to miss this night! MNS-631

December 8, 2003
The Gift That Keeps on Giving - Dr. Townsend Changed to Dr. Henry Cloud
When the holidays come around, we find ourselves consumed with finding just the right gift for those special people in our lives. And yet, if asked to recall all the gifts we’ve received over the years, we are hard pressed to remember all but a few that stood out from the rest. It’s not that the gifts weren’t appreciated; they were simply not the kind of gift that is of lasting value. This year, give a gift that keeps on giving—one that will prove to be of lasting value to the significant people in your life. MNS-632

December 15, 2003
Temptation Island - Dr. Cloud Changed to Dr. John Townsend
Surrounded by the temptations of the holiday season, our defenses are down. It’s easy to feel vulnerable, faced with so many opportunities to indulge: parties, holiday desserts, shopping, to name a few. Everywhere we look temptation seems to be lurking. So how does one resist? Is the key just saying No? The answer may surprise you! MNS-633

December 22, 2003 Christmas Holiday - NO MONDAY NIGHT SOLUTIONS

December 29, 2003 New Year's Holiday - NO MONDAY NIGHT SOLUTIONS