Monday Night Solutions
Schedule 2004

JANUARY

What’s Love Got to Do with It? A special 6-part series
What’s love got to do with it? Everything! Love has a huge impact on our enjoyment of life and the contentment we feel. We always long to make our relationships better, and if we aren’t in a relationship, we long to find one. When we have trouble loving, we find it hard to be focused in other areas of our lives. Perhaps you can relate to some of these scenarios:

He seems so distant and I feel alone.
She always tries to control me.
I seem to be drawn to the wrong types.
He always breaks his promises.
She always seems so angry with me.

If any of these perceptions sound familiar, you are not alone; many of us feel that we’ve given our best only to receive someone’s worst. Come and find out what love has to do it—with our lives, our choices, and the quality of our relationships.

January 5, 2004 - Dr. Henry Cloud
The Attraction Factor Physical attraction is the sizzle that makes relationships fun and intense. A problem arises, however, when you feel an attraction for the wrong person, or when you don’t feel it for the right person (a spouse, for instance). Understanding the attraction process will help you in choosing relationships wisely or improving the relationship you are currently in. Bring your friend, date, or spouse, and join us for “The Attraction Factor.” Single and married people alike will find this topic enlightening and fun. MNS-634

January 12, 2004 - Dr. John Townsend
Love is Blind Have you let love guide your relationships? This certainly sounds good in theory, but remember the saying “Love is blind”? Well, some of us know only too well that this was the reason we trusted the wrong people in the past. To avoid painful mistakes, we need our eyes opened wide to see others clearly. Come and learn how to identify people who are a high risk. MNS-635

January 19, 2004 - Dr. Henry Cloud
Love Gone Bad Being hurt by someone you love is painful. You’d think that one bad experience would be enough for anyone, yet we don’t always learn, do we? What is behind our tendency to choose people who are bad for us, over and over again? Unless we find out—and there is more than one reason for this behavior—we could be headed once again for a love gone bad. MNS-636

January 26, 2004 - Dr. John Townsend
Lucky in Love Do you consider yourself lucky in love? Have you wondered if a good relationship is partly luck? Now that you’re getting a clearer idea of the kind of people that aren’t good for you, let’s get down to business and focus on the “right people” for you. This is a critical matter of the heart—let’s not leave it to luck. MNS-637

FEBRUARY
What’s Love Got to Do with It? (final two parts of a special 6-part series, see above)

February 2, 2004 - Dr. Henry Cloud
Loving Choices Sometimes the truth of a matter is that you have two choices to make in love, and you don’t like either of them! One is to work through the tough stuff, and the other is to recognize when it’s time to leave this love relationship behind. It is not a matter to be taken lightly, so join us and learn how to make the right love choice for you. MNS-638

February 9, 2004 - Dr. John Townsend
Lost Love A divorce, or the loss of a love, can be unbelievably painful. Unfortunately, for many of us it is an all too familiar reality. A loss like this affects every area of life. Worst of all, we may continue to love the person we’ve lost, even when bringing him or her back is out of the question (due to death, the remarriage of a former spouse, or any number of other reasons). Often we need to learn all over again how to do life. Join us as we look at how to put the pieces back together and start a new life after a loss or divorce. MNS-639

February 16, 2004 - President's Day - No Monday Night Solutions

February 23, 2004 - Dr. John Townsend
All in the family...Then Our families had a huge impact on our formation as a person and on our personal relationships. Your family may still be affecting you in some of the same ways they did when you were a child. Whether you have a good relationship, a strained relationship, or no relationship at all, understanding your family can help you. It will allow you to repair relationships and grow personally in the process. Tonight we will take a look at the purpose of family, the problems that come along with being part of a family, and some real solutions. MNS-640

MARCH

March 1, 2004 - Dr. Henry Cloud
All in the family...now Often, if our family of origin was less than perfect, we will create a fantasy about what the perfect family would look like. With this image in mind, we set out to form our own families, either through marriage or through an extended family following a divorce. While this generally happens out of necessity, our response is often colored by the desire to do things differently than was done in our family of origin. How about you—how have you done? You may well have done it differently, but did you do it better? If not, it’s never too late to make some changes. MNS-641a

The Emotional World of Relationships - A special 4-part Series
For most of us, the most important aspect of our lives is our relationships. The quality of these relationships is affected, for good or bad, by how we deal with our emotions and how we function in our daily lives. Therefore, one step toward improving our relationships is to pay attention to our own emotional condition. When we are struggling emotionally, our connections with the important people in our lives can be stretched past the comfort zone. When someone we care about is struggling with his or her own feelings, watching that person head down a questionable path can leave us feeling helpless. In this four-part series we will explore the emotional world of relationships, and learn what to do about the many ups and downs we experience along the way.

March 8, 2004 - Dr. John Townsend
Sex, Drugs and … The state of our relationships is a barometer of how we are doing. We all go through periods when things get out of control. Often, a bad habit has worked its way into our life or into the life of someone we care about: overeating, drinking too much, smoking, acting out sexually, or working to exhaustion, for example. What’s behind these behaviors? Why are they invading our lives? And most importantly, what steps can we take to make life work the way it’s supposed to? Come and find answers. MNS-642

March 15, 2004 - Dr. John Townsend
The Fear Factor What makes you anxious or afraid? Maybe it’s the thought of boarding an airplane. Or maybe the prospect of a new job, or even of a simple confrontation, is enough to keep you awake at night. When we avoid facing our fears, we may feel temporarily secure, but odd things begin to happen in our mind. What we avoid takes on a life of its own—our fear grows out of proportion! Knowing when to deal with and when to protect ourselves from what scares us can be a tricky balancing act. Join us as we explore our debilitating fears and anxieties—the things that scare us. MNS-643

March 22, 2004 - Dr. Henry Cloud
Prozac, Anyone? Most of us have struggled through times of discouragement, sadness, or hopelessness. In some cases, these feelings can be so overwhelming we find it difficult to carry on our daily activities. Are such feelings normal? What’s the best way to handle them? We’ll examine why we lapse into depression and what to do about it. This discussion will be a useful resource for yourself or for someone you know who is struggling through tough times. MNS-644

March 29, 2004 - Dr. Henry Cloud
Will the Real YOU Stand Up? Are you who you appear to be, or do you live behind a mask? Our masks hide our real identity, even from those we care deeply about. They make us feel safe, but they also keep us from real intimacy, real relationships. What is your mask hiding? Join us as we uncover some of the ways we hide from others. We will help you to remove the mask and invite closeness with others into your life! MNS-645

APRIL

ADVENTURES IN LIVING - A special 8-part Series
If you were to write an adventure novel with yourself as the main character, how would your fictional life compare to the real life you are living—what would you change? Wouldn’t it be great if real life could be filled with excitement, enthusiasm, and anticipation, rather than with resignation, boredom, or even dread? There is a way this can happen! It involves the choices we make daily in our quest to find fulfillment. During this eight-part series, Drs. Cloud and Townsend will show that each of us is on an adventure. Prepare yourself for insights that spur you to action! In our Adventures in Living series, we will address every area of life that matters—dreams, passions, goals, temperament styles, hope, freedom, and significant relationships.

April 5, 2004 – Dr. John Townsend
Imagine the Possibilities! Your imagination plays a huge role in creating your adventure. Imagine if you were to accomplish all you’ve ever hoped for—what would that look like for you? Being able to visualize yourself reaching your goal is an important skill. Equally important is being able to imagine not reaching your goal, and allowing yourself to “experience” those consequences, too. Join us as we take a look into both possibilities. The results could be startling! MNS-646

April 12, 2004 – Dr. Henry Cloud
You and Your Style As you embark on your adventure, the first thing you need to understand is yourself. If you want to succeed, you need to get in touch with the real you and how you are wired—your temperament style. Are you an introvert or an extrovert, a feeler or a thinker? These and other differences define who you are and affect how you approach life. While we are all influenced by environment and experience, we tend to stay true to the style we were born with. Learn how that style will shape your life adventure. MNS-647

April 19, 2004 – Dr. John Townsend
Making Your Adventure a Reality Realizing our dreams is a key feature of this adventure called life. The challenge begins the moment we are faced with obstacles that prevent us from reaching our goal. In translating wishes and dreams into high adventure, we need to overcome the enemies of our success. Some of these enemies are internal, and some are external. Let’s identify them, face them, and plunge into the adventure of reality! MNS-648

April 26, 2004 – Dr. Henry Cloud
Got Love? What would any adventure be without love? If you’ve ever been to a three-dimensional adventure movie, you know what it’s like to put on those 3D glasses: instantly, your entire perception of the world changes! The scene takes on new depth, and your experience becomes far more interesting and exciting. In a similar way, love adds depth and dimension to our lives. But love is more than just an enhancement—it is essential, if we are to survive and thrive. Join us and make sure you have the love you need to make this life the adventure of a lifetime! MNS-649

MAY

May 3, 2004 – Dr. Henry Cloud
Wishing and Hoping “I wish things would improve…” “I hope everything will be okay…” How often have you found yourself saying similar things? We all wish and hope for good things in our lives and our relationships. One secret to experiencing life as an adventure is learning when hope is realistic and when it’s not. Come and discover how important hope is to achieving personal happiness. Your attitude about hope has everything to do with your past relationship experiences; it also shapes your future. MNS-650

May 10, 2004 – Dr. John Townsend
Adaptation In our important relationships, we often find that we need to adapt to the needs of others. Our ability to do so is a critical aspect of relational fulfillment. Does this mean we should accept everything that comes our way? Not necessarily. Learning when to adapt and when to resist is important to the health of our relationships. Come and learn how adapting can improve the odds of your enjoying life’s adventure. MNS-651

May 17, 2004 – Guest Speaker - Steve Arterburn
Topic: Longing for What You Are Short On MNS-652

May 24, 2004 – Dr. John Townsend
Not-So-Common Sense If you could ask for only one gift in life, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to ask for common sense! An invaluable tool, common sense enables us to evaluate situations from all angles and make good decisions. It helps us know when to act, how to pick good friends and mates, and where to invest our time and resources. As necessary as common sense is, it is not as common as it should be. There is good news, however: if you don’t have it, you can learn it! This presentation will introduce you to some “not-so-common sense” and show how it can increase your happiness and improve every area of your life. MNS-653

May 31, 2004 — Memorial Day - No Monday Night Solutions

JUNE

ADVENTURES IN LIVING (final night of a special 8-part series, see above)

June 7, 2004 – Dr. John Townsend
Embrace Freedom Freedom—life could not be an adventure without it! All of us want the freedom to choose what we will do and when we will do it. When we respect the freedom of others and the choices they make, we are happier, and so are they. But what if their choices interfere with our own freedom? How do we communicate this to them without either robbing others of their freedom or sacrificing our own? This presentation will focus on embracing freedom for the good of all concerned. MNS-654

Special Singles Night - June 14, 2004 – Dr. Henry Cloud
How to Get a Date Worth Keeping Time and again, we hear singles complain about how hard it is to find other available, well-adjusted singles to connect with. Frustrated by the lack of dates, they ask the same questions: How do I get a date? Where are all the good ones? Is there any hope? Many conclude that dating doesn’t work because they can’t even get to first base, let alone get a date worth keeping! Dr. Cloud believes that dating can be an adventure—let him show you how to plan a dating strategy that gets results! MNS-655

June 21, 2004 – Dr. Henry Cloud
Admit It Admit it—we really appreciate the person who says sorry for an offense against us. It makes us feel better and opens up the lines of communication. It gives us freedom to talk through the problems between us. When the situation is reversed, and you hurt someone, are you quick to admit it? The ability to confess is one of the most important attributes we can bring to our relationships. Even so, we often find it difficult to say the words. This presentation will answer some tough questions about saying “Okay, I admit it.” MNS-656

June 28, Come early for a BBQ, fun & fellowship 5$ - 6:00 p.m.

June 28, 2004 – Dr. John Townsend
Got to Have It! No doubt we’ve all given in to an impulse from time to time, with no ill effect. But there are also times when giving in to an impulse can have disastrous consequences. Worse yet are the times when we are affected by someone else’s impulsive behavior! What do we do then? Come and learn how to avoid the impulses that bring regrets. MNS-657

JULY

July 5, 2004 – Dr. John Townsend - Special Presentation
Who’s Pushing Your Buttons? Join us for a fun and informative evening with Dr. John Townsend as he helps us understand the difficult people in our lives. Find out who is pushing your buttons and what to do about it. You’ll be hearing Dr. Townsend present the material in his soon-to-be-released book, before the book ever hits the bookstores! MNS-658

Amazing Love (a special eight-part series)
When love works well, it is an amazing experience—everything else pales in comparison. It enriches our lives and gives us a sense of fulfillment and joy. Join us as we journey deep into the inner workings of love. This series will teach you practical skills that you won’t learn anywhere else. It will enable you to improve your odds of getting and keeping the love you want. We will be devoting the rest of 2004 to giving you all you need to know in order to make “Amazing Love” a reality in your life.

July 12, 2004 - Dr. John Townsend
What Love Looks Like Do you know what a good relationship looks like? You may never have seen one up close, or you may not have had one that included all the components of a healthy relationship. How can you begin to create something for yourself when you have only a fuzzy image of it in your head? Join us—we’ll give some definition to your picture of “what love looks like,” so you can begin building relationships based on a model that works. MNS-659

July 19, Come early for a BBQ, fun & fellowship 5$ - 6:00 p.m.

July 19, 2004 – Dr. Henry Cloud,
Extreme Dating Makeover If your dating life is stalled, it may be time for an extreme makeover. But how do you make changes that will get you noticed and help you make the most of the dating process? Dr. Cloud has answers for you. He will explore topics like breaking the rules, deciding who makes the first move, and knowing when to go from casual to serious. We will take you through dating and courtship, from first date to first baby. Don’t miss this fun evening! It is guaranteed to change how you view dating. MNS-660

July 26, 2004 – Dr. Henry Cloud
Dating Made Easy–Men Only Men, let’s talk about dating from the male perspective. Many men find dating frustrating and confusing. But it needn’t be—success depends on managing a few key factors, for example, your attitude, the selection process, and some important techniques. We’ll be taking some of the guesswork out of dating, making it easier for you than ever. Okay, Ladies, as you can see, it’s not really a “Men Only” night—feel free to come along and find out what the men find out. Your own perspective on dating might just change too! MNS-661

AUGUST

August 2, 2004 – Dr. John Townsend
The Ties That Bind Thriving relationships are rooted and grounded in our ability to connect. A good connection binds us to other people, allowing us to experience amazing love. Sounds easy, right? But it isn’t! Sadly, more people struggle with connection than with any other facet of life. If you are wondering why, come to Solutions and learn how to strengthen your ties to all the people you care about. We promise you will find answers that move you closer to your own experience of amazing love. MNS-662

August 9, 2004 – Dr. Henry Cloud
lovedoctor.com Good relationships help us feel more complete. Everyone wants them, but while the desire is healthy, we don’t always pursue it in the healthiest way. How we’d love it if the answer were a simple click of the mouse away! But even if you were to find the love of your life on the Internet—or anywhere else for that matter—how could you be sure that the person would have the cure for what ails you? Here at Solutions, we’ll give you a surefire prescription for curing your love life. MNS-663

August 16, 2004 – Dr. John Townsend
Sex Night for Singles? We thought it time to address this hot topic. Sex and Singles—without a doubt, this is a subject of great interest to singles everywhere, and since there seems to be so much controversy over it, we have decided to weigh in on it. We are going to devote one whole night to sex! Don’t miss this special evening. We will talk about sex—when it’s okay and when it’s not—and we will answer any question you are brave enough to ask! MNS-664

August 23, 2004 – Dr. Henry Cloud
Love’s Slippery Slope Life seems good…then you meet someone who seems right for you, and Wow!—suddenly life seems even better! Once in the relationship, however, you find yourself slipping back into some of your less-than-healthy ways of relating, and problems surface. Ever wonder why? There are indeed reasons, and until you understand them, you have little chance of making a relationship work. Don’t go skidding down “Love’s Slippery Slope”—come to Solutions and get your feet on solid ground. MNS-665

August 30, 2004 – Dr. John Townsend
Why Love Breaks Down Ever feel as if you keep running into invisible roadblocks every time a fulfilling love life is just within reach? You can’t quite identify the obstacles—you only know that they stop you getting what you really want. It’s true that sometimes problems can defy detection while they go on causing havoc in our relationships. At Solutions, we will expose these troublemakers and help you eliminate them once and for all. As we do, you may find that amazing love suddenly moves into the realm of possibility! MNS-666

SEPTEMBER

September 6, 2004 – Labor Day - NO MONDAY NIGHT SOLUTIONS

The Language of Love (a special seven-part series)
How would you rate your ability to convey love? When you hear the phrase “language of love,” what comes to mind? There’s a lot more to it than simply speaking softly and tenderly. In this series we will address aspects of this love language that are vital to the success of all your relationships. You’ll learn new ways to convey love throughverbal communication and to listen beyond the words you hear. These skills will improve how you relate to the people you love and care about. You’ll quickly see that speaking this language of love can bring you fulfillment and joy, as the people you love begin to respond in ways you hadn’t dreamed of.

September 13, 2004 – Dr. Henry Cloud
When Love Speaks Talking to a loved one can be fun and fulfilling, but it can also be fraught with potential problems when the topic is touchy. It’s important to be able to say what you really mean, and to say it in words that your loved one can relate to. The ability to speak honestly from your emotional self is a critical skill to learn as you begin to master the language of love. MNS-667

Sept. 20, Come early for a BBQ, fun & fellowship 5$ - 6:00 p.m.

September 20, 2004 – Dr. John Townsend
When Love Listens Think you’re a good listener? It’s possible you are, however, many of us don’t really listen well. It may sound simple to do, but so many factors affect how a conversation will go. We can react in ways we’re not even aware of, and the other person may not feel heard despite our best intentions. Join us as we take you beyond speaking the language of love to the art of listening in love. MNS-668

September 27, 2004 – Dr. Henry Cloud
“No” Is a Sexy Word When you think of sexy words, chances are that “no” doesn’t come to mind. It is commonly thought that saying “yes” is what encourages intimacy and love, but that’s not always true. “No” has a powerful affect when it is correctly. Come to Solutions to find out how “no” could be your ticket to intimacy. MNS-669

OCTOBER

October 4, 2004 – Dr. John Townsend
Words We All Want to Hear If you want to become proficient in the language of love, you will need to add some specific words and phrases to your vocabulary. Learning to use these verbal expressions can bring about the closeness and intimacy we desire. Perhaps you aren’t used to speaking this way, but now may be the time to start practicing with the important people in your life. It will make a difference in your relationships! MNS-670

October 11, 2004 – Dr. Henry Cloud
Take a Chance on Love When you love someone; we sometimes take the path of least resistance and let the other person take the initiative–but then you take the chance that you won’t get what you want. ”Take a Chance on Love” will show you how to get out of your comfort zone and move towards intimacy and closeness. It may feel uncomfortable at first but you can learn a new approach. Join us and find out how this can help you get the love you need! MNS-671

October 18, 2004 – Dr. John Townsend
Make Fighting Fun! Unloving or careless words can turn a harmless conversation into a declaration of war. When a fight erupts, some of us immediately want to run, while the rest of us are ready to go at it! Since fighting is a normal part of relationships we need to learn how to do it well. Some battles can be fought more productively and some avoided altogether when we use our love language. Fighting can create real intimacy. Come and learn how to preserve love and have fun fighting! MNS-672

October 25, 2004 – Dr. Henry Cloud
Love: Past, Present, and Future Our love language is colored by the experiences of the past, so it is important to understand how the past affects our current relationships. Monday Night Solutions will offer a fresh perspective on the past and solid instruction on how to insure better relationships in the future. You don’t have to repeat the same old mistakes—you can get past the influences of the past, and enjoy a fulfilling relational future! MNS-673


NOVEMBER

Nine Things You Simply MUST DO (a special five-part series)
Why is it that some people keep getting what they want out of life, and others don’t? Over the course of many years as a leadership consultant, Dr. Cloud has had the chance to look into this mystery. What began for him as an odd sense of “déjà vu” developed into an intriguing study into the ways of successful people. What he discovered is so profound, and yet so simple and subtle, that it is easily missed. Here it is now, presented as nine extremely practical strategies that anyone can learn. These nine principles can be applied in your work, in your relationships, and in all areas of your life. They are time-tested ways of living that identify people who succeed in love and life. If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering “Is success out there for me somewhere?” you should find this an extremely enlightening and satisfying series.

November 1, 2004 - Dr. Henry Cloud
Deja Vu People/ Dig It Up In this first part of our new, five-part series, Dr. Cloud introduces you to “déjà vu people” (he’ll tell you why he calls them that). These are the people you admire, the ones who always seem to find what they are looking for in life. As you listen, it should become clear that the success these people enjoy is fully available to you, too—it isn’t reserved for an elite class of gifted people. In the second part of the presentation, you’ll learn the first of Dr. Cloud’s “Nine Things You Simply Must Do”—the principle of “digging it up.” Digging what up? And why? As you find out, you’ll discover the importance of looking at, listening to, and being mindful of your internal life—the life that stirs you deep inside. MNS-674

November 8, 2004 - Dr. Henry Cloud
Pull the Tooth/Play the Movie The second of the Nine Things successful people do is “Pull the tooth.” Once a tooth goes bad, no amount of chewing on the other side will hide the nagging hurt. We must either fill the cavity or pull the tooth. Come and find out how this applies to the way you live, and how it can free up space and energy for exciting, new opportunities. The third of the Nine Things is “Play the movie.” “Look ahead,” Dr. Cloud tells us, “and stay aware of how each scene contributes to the movie’s ending.” It may sound like a simple matter of understanding cause and effect, but there’s more to it than that. What is the question wise people seek to answer as they face each new choice and challenge? MNS-675

November 15, 2004 - Dr. Henry Cloud
Do Something/Act Like an Ant You may think that if the problem you are facing was caused by someone else, that person should be the one to change and make things better. However, people who do well at life take a different view. They know that even when a problem isn’t their fault, they need not stay stuck—they are able to rise above their circumstances. What’s their secret? Could the fourth of Dr. Cloud’s “Nine Things You Simply Must Do” have anything to do with it? You’ll find out. In the second half, we’ll move to the fifth principle and unearth another secret successful people have in common. What principle could be so universally effective, yet so obscure that we have to go to an ant to find out about it? MNS-676

November 22, 2004 - Dr. Henry Cloud
Hate Well/ Don’t Play Fair Yes, it’s true—there is a way to hate well! In fact, hating well is so important that it is one of Dr. Cloud’s “Nine Things You Simply Must Do.” Successful people allow the right kind of hate to function the way an immune system does, keeping their lives healthy. Both what you hate and how you hate are important—Dr. Cloud will discuss both aspects of hating well. “Don’t Play Fair” is the next of the Nine Things, and just as thought-provoking. When or why would one not want to play fair? Dr. Cloud points out where playing fair falls short, and discusses the far more effective strategy used by people who do well in life. MNS-677

November 29, 2004 - Dr. Henry Cloud
Be Humble/Upset the Right People If you were asked to list traits that build success in business, marriage, child-rearing, and other arenas of life, it may not even occur to you to put down “humility.” Yet “Be humble” rates right up there as one of Dr. Cloud’s “Nine Things You Simply Must Do.” Real humility produces a frame of mind that we all need if we are to experience long-term, integrated success in all areas of life. And finally, we hope the ninth principle, “Upset the right people,” will get you thinking. How do you evaluate what your critics say about you? What guides you in making decisions—are you free to follow your internal compass, or is your course determined by the opinions of others? This last principle can set you free, free, free at last!—free to do the right thing with confidence. MNS-678

DECEMBER

Who’s Pushing Your Buttons? (a special five-part series)
Do you have someone in your life who drives you crazy? We call such people “button pushers.” They come in all shapes and sizes, and they not only confuse, frustrate, or sometimes even hurt us, they also make us dream of ways to escape the mess we’re in! A person who pushes your buttons is almost always someone who matters to you. “Your button pusher is not someone you would easily and casually leave,” says Dr. John Townsend. “You are intertwined at many levels.” Because of this, it is worth looking into how you might change the dynamics between you and your button pusher, and in doing so, revive the relationship. And that is exactly what we’ll be doing in this special, five-part series based on Dr. Townsend’s latest book, “Who’s Pushing Your Buttons?” You’ll gain insights that will help you understand your button pusher, identify the problem for what it is, and recognize your own part in it. More than that, you’ll come away with a hope-filled vision for what can be, and a wealth of resources to make that vision come true!

December 6, 2004 - Dr. John Townsend
Button Pushers: the Inside Scoop “That person really pushes my buttons!” The expression is a familiar one, and we know all too well what’s meant by it! But what exactly makes a person a button pusher? How can you be sure you’re dealing with one? And what do you do when “that person” happens to be your spouse, child, mother, or someone you are dating? In this first part of our new, five-part series, Dr. Townsend will help you identify the button pusher in your life and understand why that person can so easily affect you. He’ll also give you an insight into why button pushers are the way they are. What you learn will go a long way towards developing a strategy that works with your button pusher. MNS-679

December 13, 2004 - Dr. John Townsend
Why Working On Your Button Pusher Hasn’t Worked You’ve tried it all (Dr. Townsend knows—he’ll tell you your life story!), but your button pusher refuses to see the light, and nothing has changed. What now? Perhaps it’s time to stop and ask, “Why is this? Why is what I’m doing not working?” Having worked with countless button pushers and pushees, Dr. Townsend understands the dynamics of this difficult relationship. He can throw some light on why you have such a hard time dealing with your button pusher, and how you may be contributing to the problem. A new panorama of choices will open up for you once you grasp what he has to say. MNS-680

December 20, 2004 – Christmas Holiday - NO MONDAY NIGHT SOLUTIONS

December 27, 2004 – New Year's Holiday - NO MONDAY NIGHT SOLUTIONS