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Schedule 2007

January 2007

It's Not My Fault (Four Week Series)
We live in a culture of blame, and it is a major handicap to the relationships and success we all want. People point the finger, excuse bad behavior and failure, and blame DNA, their parents, their spouses, God, and the freeway! And what is the result? We never get anywhere we want to go, and we are guaranteed to never solve the problems that plague us. But there are answers to the blame game! Based on Dr. Cloud and Townsend's groundbreaking latest book, the It's Not My Fault series will help you to identify areas of blame and passivity and unlockj the keys to empowerment, ownership, change and success! When we learn to say "It might be my fault", the sky is the limit in what we desire and dream for.

You Can Own Your Own Life
Principle 1:
Live in Irvine, CA, January 8,2007 – Dr. Henry Cloud
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of January 22 , 2007)
How many times have you heard someone say, or said yourself,  “My situation is their fault”?  It may be about a job problem, a love struggle or a family conflict. Though there may be truth to it, this attitude can be a trap, keeping you stuck in that problem.  True freedom comes when we own our own lives and take responsibility for our outcomes, whether or not we started the problem in the first place.  Tough words? Maybe.  But they will change your life.  Learn the secrets of owning your life!

You Can Always Find A Choice
Principle 2:
Ever feel that there are no options in your life, relationship, or career?  That it’s a blind alley?  Though it may seem that way, the reality is that this is a common misperception that can hamper your success in life.  Actually, you have many choices and options, and we think it’s just that you aren’t aware of them.  When you begin learning how to realize all your choices, you also begin to creatively carve out solutions to long term problems, and paths to achieving your goals.  Choose to find a choice today! S-772

You Can Learn To Think Differently
Principle 3:
Live in Irvine, CA, January 15,2007 – Dr. John Townsend
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of January 29, 2007)
Did you know that your mind isn’t always living in reality?  This doesn’t mean that you’re crazy.  It does, however, help us understand that our thinking patterns can make a huge difference in taking charge of our lives  and getting  us out of the culture of blame.  For example, sometimes our minds say, “I just can’t…” or “He made me…” or even “I got manipulated into doing it…”  That sort of thinking won’t get you anywhere.  Instead, learn how to train your “thinker” into saying and perceiving reality in ways that get you moving, instead of keeping you in jail!

You Can Stretch And Risk
Principle 4:
So many times we are reduced to a sub-par relationship or life, not knowing what else to do.  Yet often the cause is that we are afraid to take risks and do things differently.  The comfort zone is like comfort food.  It’s OK for a few minutes, but it increases our inertia. Learn how to safely stretch, risk and get out of the boat into the water.  You’ll conquer the blame and shame problems, and move ahead.
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You Can Deal With Failure
Principle 5:
Live in Irvine, CA, January 22,2007 – Dr. Henry Cloud
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of February 5 , 2007)
OK, for all you perfectionists out there, this is your night!  Fear of failure plagues so many of us, and it keeps us blaming, assigning fault outside of ourselves, and in cycles of avoidance.  But there is hope.  There are ways to face failure, and even better, use it to your own advantage.  Learn how failure can be your friend, and how it can help you to improve your relationships and your life path!

You Can Persist And Perserve
Principle 6:
If at first you don’t succeed, well, just give up!  Sounds ridiculous, right?  Sadly, it’s the mantra of too many of us, and the outcomes aren’t ones we need in our lives. Persistance and perseverance are actually skills that can be learned and applied to any area of life:  work, love, family or goals.  And those who learn these skills get the payoff. Be a finisher, not a starter, and reap the rewards!
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You Can Get Connected
Principle 7:
Live in Irvine, CA, January 29,2007 – Dr. John Townsend
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of February 12 , 2007)
One of the main culprits of “It’s Not My Fault” thinking is the lack of a well-functioning support team.  When we don’t have regular, structured contact with those who want our best, we end up hopeless, helpless and blaming.  That’s just what isolation does to us inside.  But how do you make and develop the right connections?  That’s what this part of the talk is about:  you need certain types of relationships that will encourage you, keep you focused, and help you move along out of blame into success.

You Can Learn To Say No
Principle 8:
No matter how great your goals in love, career or life, you will encounter obstacles.  Sometimes, the better the goals, the tougher the obstacle! It can range from toxic people to distractions to our own fears.  You need a “no muscle” to protect your dreams and goals!  Learn to know what to refuse, what to allow, and how to keep your desires alive!
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February 2007

It's Not Easy Being a Super Hero! (Five Week Series)
Who doesn't enjoy a good action movie about a clever and likable superhero? We are often attracted to the strong, attractive hero or heroine, that special character who stays one step ahead of everyone and wins in the end. Real life doesn't follow a movie script; getting what you want may mean you need to shed your superhero costume and get real. This can be much harder initially than posing as someone else, but the end result is worth it. Join us for this fun but informative series, and discover how to let your superhero retire!

Superman
Live in Irvine, CA, February 5 , 2007– Dr. Henry Cloud
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of February 19 , 2007)
We often hear men say they feel they have to be Superman in order to compete. There is pressure to have it all: a good job, a hard body, the right look and the right answers. If that's not enough, he must be able to leap tall buildings with a single bound, all the while remaining in touch with his feminine side! Keeping up this image is a lot of work - and is that truly what women want in a man? Join us and have some fun as we unmask the guy women really admire and desire.S-776

Wonder Woman
Live in Irvine, CA, February 12 , 2007– Dr. Henry Cloud
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of February 26 , 2007)
Women today have so many demands on them; they can feel that they need to be Wonder Woman to pull it off. She strives to be the perfect woman: strong as well as feminine, independent but not too self sufficient, successful at work but also domestic and nurturing. It can be difficult to find a balance that allows her to be a real woman. Join us as we demystify the female heroine and reveal the real woman underneath, one that you can be comfortable being, and that men will appreciate and desire! S-777

February 19 - Presidents Day Holiday

Sizzle!
Live in Irvine, CA, February 26 , 2007– Dr. John Townsend
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of March 12 , 2007)
Now that we have unmasked our superheroes, there is a much better chance that they can begin to relate to one another in real and honest ways. A big part of any male-female relationship is the physical attraction. Things can heat up quickly - but it's knowing how to keep that fire burning that is the key to successful relationships. If you let the fire fizzle out, your relationship can be headed for serious trouble. Join us as we explore how to keep the physical attraction alive and sizzling! S-778

 

March 2007

Some Kind of Wonderful!
Live in Irvine, CA, March 5 , 2007– Dr. John Townsend
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of March 19, 2007)
We've got a real man and a real women and some great chemistry - what else could anyone want? These are a good start, but if you want your relationship to turn into "some kind of wonderful" you will need to get below the surface and connect heart to heart. This is often where relationships go south, as we tend to slip into the old relational habits that didn't work for us in the past. Join us as we look at the skills needed to really connect on all the important levels. S-779

Battle of the Sexes !
Live in Irvine, CA, March 12 , 2007– Dr. John Townsend
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of March 26 , 2007)
A discussion about male-female relationships wouldn't be complete without including a night about good old conflict. Sensitive topics can range from sex, money, in-laws, or even hobbies. Conflict is going to happen, but you don't have to let it throw you off balance. The idea isn't to avoid the topics which cause conflict - it's about meeting them when they come up and learning how to do conflict well. Join us as we unpack the tricky topic of conflict! . S-780

Hope Springs Eternal
Live in Irvine, CA, March 19 , 2007– Dr. Henry Cloud
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of April 2 , 2007)
We learn about hope from a very young age. As a child, we may hope for a special toy on our birthday. As we grow, we hope for bigger things: a certain job, finding the right person, buying our dream house, and the list goes on. Without hope, life would be dull indeed. Yet, sometimes it seems we may be hoping in vain. Is it possible to invest our hope in a desire or goal that can't ever be achieved? Join us as we look at when eternal hope makes sense and when it doesn't!
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Is Time on your Side?
Live in Irvine, CA, March 26 , 2007– Dr. Henry Cloud
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of April 9 , 2007)
Time rules our lives; we get up at a certain time, we arrive at school or work on time, we count time in minutes, days, weeks, months and years. It drives us, motivates us and can even frighten us. Time influences every area of our lives and can be our friend, if we truly understand its eternal purpose in our life. Join us as we explore the mysteries of time and learn how to make sure time is on your side. S-782

 

April 2007

Risk Factor
Live in Irvine, CA, April 2 , 2007– Dr. John Townsend
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of April 16, 2007)How do you react to situations in life that demand you take a risk and stretch beyond your comfort zone? Are you mildly resistant, do you jump at the chance, or are you somewhere in between? Believe it or not, it’s not as important how you feel about taking a risk - as long as you don’t let your feelings keep you from just doing it. Your willingness to take a risk can actually affect your relationships in some surprising ways. Join us and discover how feeling “out of control” can actually give you more control where it matters. S-783

Places in the Heart
Live in Irvine, CA, April 9, 2007– Dr. Henry Cloud
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of April 23, 2007)
 Let’s be honest - we all want to feel good!  In that quest, we seek meaningful relationships, hoping to find fulfillment in life. We search and make choices, hoping we are on the right path or in the right place. In fact, we often move between four different places emotionally, and they each have their appeal. These places in the heart have their own unique effect on how we feel and how we relate to others. Join us and we will help you recognize which place your heart has settled into.  Learn what it takes to feel good about your relationships and your life. S-784

What’s Your Style? - 3 Week series

We often bring styles of relating into our relationships which are familiar and comfortable but not necessarily good for our relationships. Sometimes one person is reluctant to let go of old habits or even to admit that they exist. The best relationships are those which provide space for both people to be themselves, while encouraging each other to grow and improve. Don’t let an unhealthy relational style ruin an otherwise good relationship. We will unpack two styles per night - so join us for the next three weeks as we examine the different styles and how to approach each one to get the results you desire.

Relationship Styles - Part 1
Live in Irvine, CA, April 16 , 2007– Dr. John Townsend
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of April 30, 2007)

The Avoider - This style is characterized by the “silent treatment”.  Avoiders may appear to listen as they skillfully dodge confronting any issue head on - to your perpetual frustration! Attempting to resolve issues with a direct approach drives this type further underground; they might even resort to finding subtle ways to irritate you to keep you off balance and off topic. We can help you get your silent partner talking about the important topics.

The Blaster - Blasters tend to keep everyone off balance by operating in defense mode; they are ready to strike at the slightest provocation. You never really know where the relational land mines are until you step on one - and then look out! A seemingly minor incident is escalated to something of major proportions.  You know that underneath this volatile exterior there lies a loving person - but something seems to keep them agitated and overreacting. We can help you defuse your blaster and finally get a calm response. S-785

Relationship Styles - Part 2
Live in Irvine, CA, April 23, 2007– Dr. John Townsend
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of May 7, 2007)

The Know-it-all - This type can exhaust you by the intensity and energy they put into being right on an issue - every issue, actually. Sometimes you wonder if they even believe what they are saying- but you know they will never admit they could be wrong, heaven forbid!  You have tried to present your ideas in a variety of ways, but these are brushed aside as they make their points. Let us guide you in responding to this type!

The Score Keeper - This person keeps careful tabs on who did what, when and to whom. They keep a mental log of offenses, some real and some imagined. When it comes to others, they have a remarkable memory - but when it comes to their own misdeeds, they seem to have remarkable memory lapses. Since you are not as good at scorekeeping (nor do you want to be), it’s hard to know how to handle this type. We can help you keep the conversation on a smooth path where you can resolve issues. S-786

Relationship Styles - Part 3
Live in Irvine, CA, April 30, 2007– Dr. John Townsend
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of May 14, 2007)

The Eeyore - We all know people who put a negative spin on just about everything - much like Eeyore, the donkey from "Winnie the Pooh"! This type seems to have a string of reasons for not doing things or why things just won’t work out. You'll hear them say: "I’ll just stay home; I never have fun anyway". We may try to encourage these people out of their downer mind set - yet they persist in their negative thinking.  What’s behind this tendency to expect the worst?  We can shed some light here and perhaps help you help the Eeyores in your life to lighten up and enjoy life.

The Cling-On - The cling-on is often a very well intentioned and loving person - but their intense need to be close can truly squelch our desire for this person. They resist giving us space and constantly check in with us, taking our emotional temperature. They really don’t like to be left out of anything, so you may find yourself making excuses for why you need to go somewhere alone - you just need some breathing room. It’s not that you don’t care for them; they are smothering you and your affection for them. We will help get the space you need while still keeping the connection. S-787

Loving Limits
Live in Irvine, CA, May 7, 2007– Dr. Henry Cloud
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of May 21, 2007)

You might be surprised at how many people struggle with boundaries in one or more areas of life. So many of us have someone in our life that we have difficulty saying “no” to - and we may not even know why. You may need a quick course in how to apply “loving limits” for your sake, and the sake of the person who pushes the limits.   Join us and we will ask some difficult questions, such as: How do you know when it is appropriate to say no? Why are you unable to do it? Why do you feel guilty when you do?  Don’t miss this important topic, as we help clear up some common misunderstandings about boundaries. S-788

Seasons of Life
Live in Irvine, CA, May 14, 2007– Dr. Henry Cloud
(CCN Satellite Broadcast airs week of May 28, 2007)

Life is full of seasons - seasons of peace, of strife, challenge, contentment, happiness and sadness. All of these are part of the tapestry of a rich full life; how we handle these determines how we are doing in our growth journey. Seasons may not be a predictable length of time, but they are meant to be temporary. Have ever known someone who seemed to be stuck in a particular season and didn’t seem to be growing through it? Can you help someone leave a season behind? Join us we look at the seasons of our life from an eternal perspective. S-789  

 

Satellite Broadcast Schedule to be Announced

Let Love In
– Dr. John Townsend  

Our ability to receive love is often related to our early experiences of love. If that hasn't gone well due to things beyond our control, we are left trying to figure out how to "let love in”. It’s difficult to give to others what we haven’t experienced ourselves.  Join us as we look at the process of how our early love experiences shape us - and how getting the full benefit of loving relationships can improve all aspects of our lives.    S-790

 

Secrets of the Good Life –

8-Part Series (A series based on the Beatitudes)

We all want the good life - a life filled with peace, joy happiness, love, and fulfillment. It is possible to actually have ALL of this? Most of us would settle for just finding a way to make life work more smoothly.  Even this can be tough, especially if you don’t know where to focus or what steps to take. It seems that a spiritual connection should help us achieve this, and yet many of us have found that our spiritual life and our personal life seem to have little in common. We live with relational problems, career problems and sometimes emotional issues, such as depression or anxiety. So we try harder and we continue to search for what we think are the secrets of the good life. Is there a formula - and if there is, what is it? Join us for this series and each week we will give more of what you need to make life work the way it was meant to.  You can experience the good life!

When Less is More! – Dr. Henry Cloud

It seems we spend much of our lives listening to messages that make us think we should be able to do it all or have it all. No wonder we feel overwhelmed and confused about how to get the “good life”! It may seem overwhelming, and you could even feel you are at the end of your rope. Even though your goal seems out of reach, you could actually be closer to your goal than you think. We can help you get what you don’t have - more peace and harmony in your life.  Join us for week one in this series, and take your first step toward achieving the good life. S-791

Put on a Happy Face – Dr. John Townsend

Another common message we grow up with is to be tough and “stop crying - don’t be a baby!” Because we are programmed “to put on a happy face” from an early age, we learn to pretend that everything is okay, even when it’s not.  We may have learned this behavior from our families, and just accepted it. Yet, there comes a time when we need to ask ourselves: Is this really helpful?  We think there may be a better way of living and handling life’s difficulties. Surprisingly, getting in touch with the ability to express sadness is one of the secrets of the good life. Blessed are those who mourn for they will be comforted. S-792

Get Real Power – Dr. Henry Cloud

We all have the power within us to achieve success in life and in relationships. We also have the power to destroy the good things we want. It’s not that we want to, as much as we are confused about the proper use of our strength. Another important key to the good life is knowing what real power is and when to exert it. Sometimes not exercising our power is the best example of real strength. Join us and learn how to direct your power so you are more likely to win where it counts - in your relationships. S-793

A Dream Come True – Dr. John Townsend

Finding true fulfillment is everyone’s dream. When what we want lines up with what we get, we are happy and fulfilled. Unfortunately, this result may not happen as often as most of us would like. Can we improve our odds, getting what we want more often - or is it more a matter of changing what we desire?  Desiring the good stuff in life may not be the same thing as desiring the stuff that is good for us.  Join us as we reveal yet another secret to gaining the good life. S-794

Feeling Good – Dr. John Townsend

If we hurt or offend someone, we expect them to want restitution - or an apology, at the very least. When someone gives us a pass and lets us off the hook, we breathe a sigh of relief. You have just experienced true Mercy. It feels good, doesn’t it? So, why don’t we resist the impulse to retaliate or extract justice?  Knowing when to give a little mercy can be a gift for both parties. Can you give too much mercy? How do you know when to give it and when to withhold it? Join us and learn this important secret to achieving the good life. S-795 

Heart so Pure – Dr. Henry Cloud

We may think we have pure motives and the best of intentions; but often we have an agenda or expectations for something in return, which we may not even be aware of. Learning to get to a place where our motives are pure with no expectations can bring us some unexpected fruit in our relationships. This is also an important secret to a life of harmony - and achieving the good life. . S-796

Peace Out! – Dr. Henry Cloud

Most of us would like to live in a peaceful environment, but peace is not always easy to achieve. Often people mistake calm and silence for peace; these are not necessarily the same. In order to truly achieve peace, it’s important to learn the difference between “making peace” and “keeping the peace”. If you are going to make peace you will need to get out of your comfort zone. Join us and learn another secret to experiencing the good life - the art of peacemaking. S-797

Fight for what’s Right – Dr. John Townsend

We are all at different places in our quest for the good life, and sometimes this puts us at odds with those around us. Certain situations require that we take a stand on issues that are uncomfortable for us. We may want to back down for fear of offending or alienating someone close to us - yet we  know we must “fight for what’s right”. Some resistance is normal and even to be expected, so let us help you learn how to handle the struggle that’s likely to come your way. Don’t miss the conclusion of this series - and the final secret to getting the good life. S-798