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"Christian" Beliefs that Can Drive You Crazy
- Part 2
False Assumption Leave The Past Behind
Have your ever had someone tell you, "You are a new creation in Christ,
the past should have no claim over you. You should forget what lies behind and
press on?" Proponents of this idea say the past is not important; we should
just press on to what lies ahead. Well, this is a misapplication of Scripture;
dealing with our past is very biblical.
We as humans are caught in the flow of time. We divide our lives into past,
present, and future. But the Bible looks at our lives from the perspective of
eternity, in which there is no past or futureonly the present.
The things we would say are "in our past" are really part of our present,
since from the perspective of eternity that is all there is.
People have hurt us and we have hurt people. We have suffered wrong and we
have done wrong. We would say, "All those things happened in the past and
can't be changed." But the Bible shifts the focus from the past to the
eternal present: "What is the state of your soul and everything in it now?
Have your past experiences been exposed to the light? Have they been forgiven?
Have you repented of them? Have you exposed the hurt to love and light? Have
we grieved over and let go of hurtful things, or are we still hanging onto them?
We need to see our lives and our souls not as past and present, but as eternal.
Have the things in our soulspain, patterns, skills, desires, fearsbeen
exposed to the light of God's grace, truth, and forgiveness? If so, those things
are healed and transformed. However, if we don't expose things of the past to
the light of God's truth and love, they remain in darkness and are still alive today, creating fruits of darkness in us.
Why is the teaching that we should not worry about the past's influence on
us destructive and unbiblical? Because it forbids bringing the things that are
in the darkness into the light and having the grace of God touch them.
A misinterpretation of the popular, "forget the past" Scripture explains
why many never bring their feelings into the light. Look at Philippians 3:5-9,
13-14:
For I was circumcised when I was eight days old, having been born into
a pure-blooded Jewish family that is a branch of the tribe of Benjamin. So
I am a real Jew if there ever was one! What's more, I was a member of the
Pharisees, who demand the strictest obedience to the Jewish law. And zealous?
Yes, in fact, I harshly persecuted the church. And I obeyed the Jewish law
so carefully that I was never accused of any fault. I once thought all these
things were so very important, but now I consider them worthless because of
what Christ has done. Yes, everything else is worthless when compared with
the priceless gain of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. I have discarded everything
else, counting it all as garbage, so that I may have Christ and become one
with him. I no longer count on my own goodness or my ability to obey God's
law, but I trust Christ to save me. For God's way of making us right with
himself depends on faith...No, dear brothers and sisters, I am still not all
I should be, but I am focusing all my energies on this one thing: Forgetting
the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I strain to reach the end
of the race and receive the prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is
calling us up to heaven.
What is "the past" to Paul is not his hurt or situations that require
him to forgive someone or even his old sins. The past that Paul is forgetting
is his old way of trying to achieve righteousness. He spends the entire first
part of this chapter listing his accomplishments to illustrate to the Philippians
how he vainly tried to please God. But it didn't work. He is leaving the old
system behind. He's found a new faith.
In fact, by enumerating his accomplishments earlier in the chapter, he was
bringing them to the light, confessing them, grieving them. He never denied
what he had done.
Paul is not saying in this passage to let bygones be bygones. To the contrary,
the apostle models for us the act of bringing one's past to the light and confessing
it.
These directives reveal why dealing with the past is so important:
- Expose the Deeds of Darkness
The first biblical directive is that we bring into the light whatever is in
darkness. Our past is our history. The Bible isn't concerned about when something
happened, whether today or ten years ago. The Bible is interested only in
whether we have denied the problem and pushed it into the darkness, or whether
we have exposed it to the light and dealt with it in God's way. Have we covered
it up, or have we confessed it and brought it to the light? Bringing things
to light, opens us up to the process of transformation. And transformation
is what God is interested in (Ephesians 5:11, 13).
- Forgive Everyone Who Sins Against You
Unless we look at the past we cannot truly forgive. Forgiveness deals with
the past. Forgiveness is God's way of making right the things that have hurt
us. To know whom to forgive, we must know what happened to us, name the sin,
and realize who is guilty.
- Grieve Your Losses
Openness to the past is the way through grief, which in turn is the process
of letting go of things that we were once attached to. This letting go allows
us to be open to the present. In short, loss opens the door to new life.
Hurts and losses in our past can keep us stuck emotionally and spiritually
if we do not grieve them, thereby releasing them. God's way of dealing with
this is through grief, or letting go. Realizing what we have lost, feeling
anger and sadness, and then letting go frees us.
Grieving is a conscious process by which we deliberately release our attachment
to persons, goals, or wishes that we can no longer have. Our attachment
to these outgrown things keeps us from connecting to new and better things
that God has for us. Ties to the old life keep us from living the new life
God has for planned for us. Ironically, sadness can move a person out of
pain and into happiness. Grief can transform a heart.
- Confess and Repent
When people examine the patterns they learned in the families they grew up
inthat is, their families of originthey are often accused of sidestepping
their own problems and blaming their parents for their behavior.
Certainly, it is easy to blame others when we ought to take responsibility
for our own behavior. Some individuals are stuck in the blaming rut. However,
there are solid biblical reasons for exploring the past-in particular, your
past in your family of origin. These reasons include: bringing things out
of darkness, understanding whom we need to forgive, realizing with whom
we should reconcile, and grieving.
An equally important reason for understanding the past is to repentto
turn away from patterns we learned in our families of origin. God is always
willing to forgive those who acknowledge their sin and repent. The chain
of generational sin can be broken.
If in this moral inventory we find not only generational, family sin but
also personal sin that we alone are responsible for, we need to confess
that sin, ask for forgiveness and move on (I John 1:9). In addition, we
need to confess to each other (James 5:16) in order to feel the full power
of the grace of God. Many have never felt God's grace because they've never
confessed their darkness to another person and felt his or her full acceptance.
One of the ways we feel God's acceptance is through the love of his people
(1 Peter 4:10).
Changing the Past
It is wrong to teach that we should just forget the past, for the simple reason
that the past will one day be our entire life. Past, present, and future are
aspects of our soul that need to be reconciled to God.
We cannot change our past. But we must change our internal connections to those
who have hurt us by forgiving them. We must release our demand that they somehow
make it up to us. We need to let go of lost dreams and people.
We must take our living hurts from the past to those who can heal them. We
can bring to light patterns we have learned from our parents and other adults,
confess those destructive patterns, disagree with them, and repent from them.
If we have wronged people, we must confess our sin, apologize to those we have
hurt, and make amends.
Though none of these processes change the past, the can redeem the past. God is in the process of reconciling everything that has gone wrong,
including our personal past. But in order for him to deal with our past, we
need to bring all of our broken parts to him.
Bring your history to God, whether it happened two days or twenty years ago.
Bring it to him and to his people, allow his light and grace to transform it,
bring his truth to bear on it, and experience the reconciliation of your whole
life.
Next week
another False AssumptionIf
I have God, I don't need people
Taken from 12 "Christian" Beliefs That
Can Drive You Crazy, © Drs. Henry Cloud & John Townsend,
Zondervan 1995
12
"Christian" Beliefs That Can Drive You Crazy helps
you find relief from 12 false assumptions that are commonly believed. Drs. Cloud
& Townsend explain the origin of these false principles, show where they
go wrong, and pressent a biblical path for resolving emotional and spiritual
problems.
This article is Part 2 in a series of Feature Articles adapted from 12
"Christian" Beliefs That Can Drive You Crazy
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