What Do You Mean “Boundaries”? by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

The parents of a twenty-five-year-old man came to see me (Dr. Townsend) with a common request: they wanted me to “fix” their son, Bill. When I asked where Bill was, they answered, “Oh, he didn’t want to come.” “Why?” I asked. “Well, he doesn’t think he has a problem,” they replied. “Maybe he’s right,” I […]

Your Next Hard Thing by Dr. John Townsend

September 28, 2015jodi.cokerArticles0

You have never received a winner’s trophy before playing in the championship game. You have never been offered a promotion before you excelled in your job. Your parents never instructed you to make sure you ate your dessert first and not worry about the vegetables, since they would take care of themselves. Why did none […]

Marriage Conflicts and Teens by Dr. John Townsend

August 6, 2015jodi.cokerArticles0

Teens, by definition, are going through a season of chaos, developmentally, neurologically, emotionally and socially. And when an adolescent’s family struggles as well, it can add chaos to chaos. Not good for anyone. Marriages can be hard: alienation, unending arguments, power struggles, narcissism, addictions, infidelity and even violence. These problems can keep parents from having […]

“No.” Is A Complete Sentence: How to Use & Stick to It by Dr. Henry Cloud

July 22, 2015jodi.cokerArticles1

Psychologists spend an enormous amount of energy building psychological tests, assessments and the like, and then administering them to people to help them understand themselves. This practice is very helpful in many settings, from work, to education, to couples and individuals. Insight into ourselves and others is really helpful for a number of reasons. I […]

Get Help If There Has Been Early Trouble by Dr. John Townsend

July 22, 2015jodi.cokerArticles0

Studies show that seriously negative events between the ages of 2 and 4 (divorce, death of a parent, health issues, bankruptcy, etc.) can have a profound impact on a child, often affecting his or her personality during the teen years. The events may have occurred years ago, but they need to be investigated and, when […]