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Hitting the Wall
We’ve all done it….had a plan for reaching a goal or making a change, got off to a good start, and then “stalled out.” Remember your last New Year’s resolutions – or other plans to change something that you were excited about? But then, you “hit a wall” and it all went away. Don’t worry, and don’t get discouraged. This session will show you how this is normal; people who succeed always run into that, but they have strategies to deal with it. You will learn what to do when you hit the wall, so the change you seek in your life or relationship can happen.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Series: The Law of Happiness
Part 1 of 6: Series Overview and Happy People Are Not Lazy About Happiness
In the opening session, Dr. Cloud presents an overview of happiness beginning with the current research on where happiness comes from. More
In the second part of this first presentation, Dr. Cloud teaches us Law 1: “Happy People are Not Lazy About Happiness.”
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Part 2 of 6: Happy People Don’t Wait for “Someday” and Happy People Fully Engage
This presentation will cover Laws 2 and 3 of happiness: Happy People Don’t Wait For “Someday” and Happy People Fully Engage.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Part 3 of 6: Happy People Connect, Happy People Don’t Compare Themselves, and Happy People Pursue Goals
This presentation will cover Laws 4, 5, and 6 of happiness: Happy People Connect, Happy People Don’t Compare Themselves, and Happy People Pursue Goals.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Part 4 of 6: Happy People Think Well, Happy People are Grateful, and Happy People are Givers
This presentation will cover Laws 7, 8, and 9 of happiness: Happy People Think Well, Happy People Are Grateful, and Happy People are Givers.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Part 5 of 6: Happy People Have Boundaries, Happy People Forgive, and Happy People Have a Calling
This presentation will cover Laws 10, 11, and 12 of happiness: Happy People Have Boundaries, Happy People Forgive, and Happy People Have a Calling.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Part 6 of 6: Happy People Have Faith-Conclusion: Steps to Implementing a Path to Happiness
This presentation will cover Law 13, the last law of happiness: Happy People Have Faith, and the conclusion to this series, Steps to Implementing a Path to Happiness.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Taking a Relationship to a Deeper Level
We all want better relationships, but often we don’t know how to go about improving and deepening the ones we have. Relationships don’t always happen organically. They take some effort and intention, but the results are worth it. Learn the skills of going deeper.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Solving Problems in Follow-Through
When did you last look at your projects list and feel discouraged or overwhelmed? It’s easy to start an idea, a goal, or a project – but often it’s difficult to finish it. In this lesson, you’ll learn the keys of being a person who follows through to success.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Getting Rid of the Wrong Self-Talk
Today, we hear the term “addiction” applied to almost everything from work, to sex, to food, to BlackBerries. So, are we all addicted? If so, what should we do about it? Is the term even helpful anymore? The truth is that while there are technical arguments about the scientific basis of addiction, there are some personal patterns that we all can agree on. Loss of “self-control” and the desire for “more” are two that usually apply to some area of life at some particular time for almost everyone. This session will help you understand what you can learn from the popular notion of addiction and apply it to some of the most resistant areas of your life.
Dr. John Townsend
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What Motivates You?
You are drawn to certain people and activities because of your internal motivators, so it helps to know what drives you. Is it love? Need? Control? When you understand what motivates you, you can make better choices. This lesson will help you gain that understanding.
Dr. John Townsend
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How to Ask the Right Way When You Want Something from Someone
Is it easier for you to “do without” than to ask someone for help, understanding or love? That’s a normal human problem; yet God designed us to ask. Here you’ll find out how to get over the obstacles to asking, and you’ll learn how to ask in a way that preserves relationship and causes good things to happen.
Dr. John Townsend
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Pruning
If you don’t end some things you are doing today, the tomorrow you desire may not come to pass. This session will help you decide which of the three “Necessary Ending” scenarios is keeping you from reaching a goal or making a change. Dr. Cloud will discuss how you can make endings normal, align yourself well with them, and possibly even see endings as a good thing! You will be able to apply what you learn to all aspects of life, whether big picture or small, business or personal. Let’s get positive about endings – so we can make way for new beginnings.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Diagnosing Hope
Dr. Cloud will discuss the lifesaving virtue of hopelessness. You’ll learn that being hopeful can actually have negative consequences if you aren’t in touch with what is and isn’t working. In this session, you will get motivated about getting hopeless. Once you are in touch with the reality of your situation, you will be able to see endings clearly; you’ll be confident in what you are hoping for, and what you need to let go of. You will also learn about the different types of “pasts”, and how they can be a pruner’s best friend. The experiences of the past not only predict the future, but can help you decide what’s worth keeping and fixing – and what needs to be pruned.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Wise, Fool, Evil
You will learn how to identify these three types of people: the wise, the foolish, and the evil. Because endings that involve people are never easy, it’s important to know how to tell the difference between people you can trust and those you can’t. Dr. Cloud will discuss the traits of these three types, as well as strategies for dealing with them. Understanding that you can’t deal with everyone in the same way will help you to stop your enabling patterns. You will see more clearly who is wise and open to hearing what you have to say, who needs limits and consequences, and who is misspent energy and requires an ending. Your success in reaching goals depends not only on you, but on the people you invite into your tomorrow.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Hoarding: The Pain of Clutter
Hoarding has received a great deal of attention recently; there have been numerous TV shows and articles devoted to this topic. While it may be interesting to watch or read about, living with the problem is distressing and often overwhelming. Depending on the severity, hoarding can interfere with your ability to have close and meaningful relationships, and disrupt your normal family life. All the “stuff” gets in the way! Dr. Townsend will unpack the deeper issues behind hoarding and help us understand the reasons why people hoard and how to find help. If you or someone you know struggles with hoarding, there are answers for you!
Dr. John Townsend
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How to Be a Person Who Attracts Others
Why do some people tend to draw healthy people to them, while others draw unhealthy people into their lives? It really does have to do with you! We all have the ability to attract others, but it is important to think about this attraction factor. Our attitudes, our energy level, how we communicate, what we say, and our clarity of purpose are just a few of the things that act as a magnet to others. If you want to attract a certain kind of person, it is important to understand some of the signals we send out which draw people to us. Dr. Townsend will give us some key traits to consider as we evaluate our ability to attract the kind of people we want in our lives.
Dr. John Townsend
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Series: 12 Christian Beliefs That Can Drive You Crazy
Chapter 1 of 12: It’s selfish to have my needs met
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Chapter 2 of 12: If I’m spiritual enough, I will have no pain or sinfulness
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Chapter 3 of 12: If I change my behavior, I will grow spiritually and emotionally
Dr. John Townsend
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Chapter 4 of 12: I just need to give it to the Lord
Dr. John Townsend
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Chapter 5 of 12: One day, I’ll be finished with recovery
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Chapter 6 of 12: Leave the past behind
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Chapter 7 of 12: If I have God, I don’t need people
Dr. John Townsend
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Chapter 8 of 12: “Shoulds” are good
Dr. John Townsend
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Chapter 9 of 12: Guilt and shame are good for me
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Chapter 10 of 12: If I make right choices, I will grow spiritually
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Chapter 11 of 12: Just doing the right thing is more important than why I do it
Dr. John Townsend
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Chapter 12 of 12: If I know the truth, I will grow. Conclusion
Dr. John Townsend
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What Successful People do to be Successful
We would all agree that success in life is something everyone desires. We all want to make life work, and find fulfillment in the process. What area do you want to succeed in? Is there something that you haven’t accomplished yet? Are you feeling stuck in some area – your career, your finances, your relational life, or something else? Whatever your goal is, it is possible for you to achieve it – if you understand God’s definition of success and then follow His specific path to get there. Dr. Townsend will take you through the steps God has given us. You can improve your ability to really succeed in every area of life!
Dr. John Townsend
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You and the Controlling Person
Many of us have a controlling person in our lives. This person will often pressure you to do something that you really don’t want to do, but you give in again and again. It is important that you understand your role in allowing this control to occur. People “try to control you” because they want you to do something. How do you handle this person? Do you get angry? Do you cave in and then feel resentment? It is your job is to convert the controlling person to a person who is frustrated in their attempts to get you to do something. However, you must be prepared for their reaction. This type of person is rarely happy to hear you say no. It’s important for you to listen to what happens inside of you when this dynamic is occurring. Dr. Cloud will help you say No and develop a strategy to hold on to your freedom and your boundaries.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Leaving a Dysfunctional System
Sometimes we need to leave toxic people, or escape bad situations. Even if we know that something or someone is not good for us, attachment or dependence can make it very difficult to leave. We can be encouraged that just wanting something better is the beginning of getting a healthier life. When we invite light into our life, we may initially be excited about the prospect of something new and better. However, not everyone will share our excitement; others may attempt to undermine our efforts to break away, so we need to be prepared. Dr. Cloud will illustrate how this process works using one of his favorite Old Testament stories (Genesis 19). This Solutions session will help you learn how to leave behind dysfunction and better prepare for resistance.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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How Growth Happens
We should all be improving and growing in all areas of life. And yet, each of us has areas that we are stuck in, and the change we desire isn’t happening. Sometimes fear keeps us from facing our issues. None of us wants to waste time – but if we’re not taking action, we may be wasting not only our time but also our precious gifts and talents. To illustrate this, Dr. Cloud unpacks one of his favorite stories from the Bible, The Parable of the Talents (Matthew 25). This parable is an excellent example of how God sees our growth and what he expects from us. This parable contains a promise; but it also contains a warning.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Standalone Seminar: All in the Family
Your family of origin has a huge impact on the person you are today. God is a relational person, and he has decided to grow people using the nuclear family. The family is the place where you are supposed to learn how to connect, how to become a whole, healthy, functioning person, and how to live. If your family didn’t know how to teach this, you end up incomplete. This topic is not about blaming our families, as there are no perfect families – it’s about learning how to do life differently. As adults, we need to figure out how to get what our family didn’t give us. This session will give you the answers you desire.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Standalone Seminar: Finding Realistic Hope
We need hope in order to thrive and to live life fulfilled and encouraged. Hope is essential to our happiness, and yet hope can sometimes disappoint us. It is important to realize that there is good hope and bad hope. We often misunderstand hope; we think it is about the future when it really is about something entirely different. Hope comes not from the future, but from the past. It is essential that we understand how hope develops and how it plays such an important role in our life.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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7 Deadly Sins, Part 1: Envy
Healthy desire comes from the real self and from a genuine place in the heart, but envy comes from a very different place. Envy is not about simple healthy desire; envy defines the good as “that which I don’t have”. Envy
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7 Deadly Sins, Part 2: Sloth
When we hear the word ‘sin’, we often think about major issues such as lying, cheating or stealing – but smaller issues can be sins too. The bible calls Sloth a sin. More
Proverbs 22:13
Dr. John Townsend
S-971
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7 Deadly Sins, Part 3: Gluttony
What do you think of when you think of Gluttony? Overeating is the most common image that comes to mind; however, gluttony is not always about food. More
Dr. John Townsend
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7 Deadly Sins, Part 4: Wrath
Wrath is not just an angry response to a real offense; it is a specific type of anger – a big tantrum, an extreme protest against reality. Anger is designed to help us protect ourselves or someone else; it comes when we feel we are being taken advantage of, being offended, or being violated in some way. It can be healthy when we express our anger appropriately; but in the book of James, we are instructed to ‘Be angry and sin not!’ It’s important to find the right ways to express anger, understand the different types of anger, and realize that there is both good and bad anger. Join Dr. Townsend, and learn some new skills that will help you handle your anger in healthy ways.
Dr. John Townsend
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7 Deadly Sins, Part 5: Pride
Dr. Cloud begins this presentation on Pride by reminding us that “sin” simply means we have missed the mark. When we talk about sin, we are talking about how we miss out on life the way God intended us to live it – relying on Him. The story in Genesis about the fall gives us a clear example of the danger of this attitude of self-sufficiency. Pride is the original sin; all of our problems began here because of our desire to live life apart from God. Pride means that I want to be more than I am. You may be surprised to discover the different forms that pride can take in your life, and how destructive it is to you and to all of your relationships. Join Dr. Cloud as he gives us the antidote to pride – a very simple formula.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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7 Deadly Sins, Part 6: Lust
Lust describes a desire that is simply hunger. Desire is good when it is drives us to meet healthy needs and to get fulfilled in good ways. The Bible says that when separated from God, we all have a tendency toward lust that can take many forms: lust of the eye, lust of the flesh, or the boastful pride of life. When our natural hunger isn’t directed into healthy ways, it can be channeled into destructive and unhealthy ways. The book of Ephesians gives us insight into lust, and how being separated from the life of God creates a distortion in our healthy desires. Our lust can and often does lead to a variety of addictions that have the power to destroy us and our relationships. When we are not getting filled up with good things, God and others, we will feel deprived and seek unhealthy false solutions.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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7 Deadly Sins, Part 7: Greed
Greed is part of the human condition and many people struggle with it to some degree. Greed is when you have an orientation toward having “more” – and never feel you have “enough”. People who struggle with greed don’t have the appropriate off switch; they seem always to be after just a little bit more of something. Greed isn’t limited to the desire for more money, although money is what we usually think of when we hear the word. Jesus said in Luke 12:15 “Be on your guard again all kinds of greed.” There are other kinds of greed that are equally destructive. Greed can affect our relationships when we are involved with people who want more, more, and more – and are never satisfied with what we give. Join Dr. Townsend; learn how to identify your tendencies toward greed, and find healthy ways to get your needs met.
Dr. John Townsend
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Beyond Boundaries: Knowing When You’re Ready
God created us for relationship with Him as well as with other people; we need God and we need people. When we have been hurt by relationship, we may avoid it, detaching from others in an effort to protect ourselves. This isn’t the answer; you can protect yourself without giving up on relationships. Dr. Townsend will help you learn how to examine your past and learn valuable lessons from those painful relationships. He will show you how having healthy boundaries will protect you and enrich your life, and give you four steps to consider as you begin learning to trust again.
Dr. John Townsend
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Beyond Boundaries: Knowing When the Other Person is Ready
This presentation will help you evaluate if the person you are considering trusting is ready to receive your trust. Is this person trustworthy? Whether this is a new person or someone from the past, you need to have a way to evaluate character. You should not be looking for perfect people, but for people who are in the growth process. Dr. Townsend will give you five essential criteria to use in determining if someone can be trusted.
Dr. John Townsend
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Beyond Boundaries: Moving into the Relationship
Dr. Townsend gives us some important skills to use when we are ready to either renew an old relationship or begin a new one. In the best relationships, people do specific things to keep the relationship healthy and growing. Join Dr. Townsend and learn what you can do to insure that your relationships are rich, deep and fulfilling.
Dr. John Townsend
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Nagging!
How many of us are guilty of nagging? A common definition of nagging is: to annoy or irritate a person with continuous urging. Nagging is a form of pestering, of reminding someone of something you have already discussed. Research has proven that nagging doesn’t really work. It doesn’t change behavior, and often gives us the opposite of what we hope to achieve. You may be surprised to learn that the Bible has something to say about nagging. What can you do instead of nagging to get the change you desire? Join Dr. Cloud, and he will help you find different ways to communicate – ways that will be more effective in getting you the results you want!
Dr. Henry Cloud
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Criticism
Criticism often feels like a put-down; it conveys disapproval, and can be hurtful. Harsh criticism often causes marriages to fail, and can harm all of your relationships. We need to be able to offer constructive feedback that isn’t intended to hurt someone, and know how to do it in such a way that the other person can receive it and benefit from it. Do you criticize in a negative and hurtful way? Or do you give feedback that is constructive and kind to the other person? Our past experience influences how we give others our view of them, and can make feedback feel like a put-down even when it isn’t intended that way. It is important to be able to tell the difference between criticism and helpful feedback; we can learn from Galatians 6 and from the book of Proverbs. Dr. Cloud will offer helpful insight into the area of criticism and feedback.
Dr. Henry Cloud
S-981
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Jealousy
Jealousy is often confused with Envy, but they are two very different things! Jealousy is a painful emotion having to do with the fear of losing someone or their affection to someone else. In jealousy, there is a triangle involving you, someone you want or love, and a third party who threatens to take what you want. Jealousy leaves us feeling very vulnerable. There are situations in which jealousy is appropriate, such as when it involves protecting someone we love. However, when there is no real reason for it, jealousy can create serious problems in our relationships. Join Dr. Cloud as he helps you look at different aspects of jealousy – when it is real, when it isn’t based in reality – and how you can handle this emotion in your own life and relationships.
Dr. Henry Cloud
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