Embracing the Negative
By Henry Cloud, Ph.D. Overview: Part of life and success is facing, dealing with, and resolving “negative reality.” There are problems with anything in life, and that includes anything good. A good idea will have problems. A good marriage will have its difficulties. A good company will have struggles. People, markets, organizations, and ourselves all […]
Getting Results
By Henry Cloud, Ph.D. Overview: When we talk about character and work, usually what we hear about is a “work ethic.” We value people who work hard, and have a high commitment to work. Certainly that is an aspect of character integrity. But, there is more to the kind of character that gets results than […]
Oriented Towards the Truth: In Touch With Reality
By Henry Cloud, Ph.D. Overview: Mature character integrity goes beyond just being “honest” when it comes to the truth. It is a stance in life that is “oriented towards reality.” In other words, this kind of character seeks the truth about themselves, others, and the world around them in order to know what reality is […]
Establishing and Maintaining Trust
By Henry Cloud, Ph.D. Overview: Mature character integrity goes beyond just “being nice” to people. It is able to understand and connect with the needs of others, thereby building bonds of trust through empathy. It is able to make a way to people’s hearts through extending unmerited favor to people, and also through being appropriately […]
Introduction to Character
By Henry Cloud, Ph.D. Main Points: Much of life’s fruit, or results, comes from good character, and character comes from spiritual growth in the ways that God has ordained. So, to make life work, focus on character growth first, not just results. Step One: Admit that I need to grow in order for life to […]
Ministry Counseling with Purpose
If you are in any sort of ministry, it is a certainty that you have more than a little opportunity for counseling. The needs of people just tend to surface whenever any representative of God is available. And if you are like most ministers, you have some sense of enjoyment of this aspect of your […]
Flirting with Danger
By: Henry Cloud, Ph.D. Sandy’s crying troubled me. It did not seem to be the normal pain of breaking off a relationship with a boyfriend. That kind of grief is sad to be with, but I felt more disturbed at the tone of her sobs. There was a certain feeling of despair more than grief. […]
Dependency – Key to our Needs View Printable Version
By: John Townsend Ph.D. One of the most tender scenes anyone can experience is that of a mother nursing her infant. The baby is safe and warm as he takes in the milk he needs to survive; and at the same time, he also receives her love and care inside himself. The mother gently holds […]
Overcoming The Fear Factor In Sharing Your Faith
By: Henry Cloud, Ph.D. Have you ever felt the tug of wanting to share your faith with someone and then didn’t? Have you ever known a friend for some time, prayed for him or her, and yet the time “never seemed right” to share with that person? What about that person in the airplane seat […]
Whether Mars Or Venus, Men and Women Need To Be On The Same Planet
By: Henry Cloud, Ph.D. There has been a lot of talk lately about the differences that men and women have in communication, and sometimes, with good results. But in my experience, singles do not suffer as much from the differences in their communication as they do from their lack of clarity in their communication. In […]