Picking Safe People
By Henry Cloud, Ph.D. Have you ever wondered why some relationships seem to lead to growth and happiness and others to pain and injury? Have you ever had the experience of meeting someone, finding them attractive and charming, trusting them in some way, and then later were hurt very badly by them? Or, worse than […]
Learning to Be Safe
Has this question ever crossed your mind? Okay, I finally found a safe person, now what do I do with him? Look at him? Take him home? Go to a movie? Ride off into the sunset? Many of us are quite unfamiliar with the dynamics of closeness. The good news is that we can take […]
Where are the Safe People?
Last week we described what safe relationships look like. Now the big question remains—where do you find safe people? A client lamented with me about how she had tried the “safe relationship” stuff, sharing her heart, being honest, etc. and concluded that it just didn’t work. She felt judged and condemned. It seemed that those […]
What are Safe People?
If you surf around this website, you would soon discover I am a strong proponent of getting connected in good, safe relationships. It is the underlying ingredient of having a healthy, maturing life. So, what are safe relationships? A safe relationship is one that does three things: Draws us closer to God. (Matthew 22:37-38) Draws […]